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Kevin MahoneyParticipantHello Lyssan,
I am can feel your anguish when I read your words. I am sorry for your pain. I will pray for you and your son. As I read I thought “support” , she needs support. This goes beyond meditation and distraction. If you feel comfortable sharing your son’s condition please do. Someone in the online community here might be able to direct you towards resources you are unable to find on your own. No doubt that there are people who know the challenges you guys are facing and have gone through it themselves. Those people, if you can find them, are a potential source of help. Good luck.
Kevin MahoneyParticipantHello Crawford,
I l just saw a documentary that relates to what you have shared. It is called Finding Guy. You can check it out online I believe. Good luck.
December 21, 2017 at 5:47 pm in reply to: Afraid I'll get "the call" about my drug addicted brother #183229Kevin MahoneyParticipantSorry to hear about your bother. Seeing a loved one battle addiction is awful. Try to take care of yourself as you reach out to help your brother. Like on an airplane, you need to put on your oxygen mask before you help others to do the same.
I am not sure if you are a person of faith but there are principles in the Serenity Prayer that you might find informative, faith or none. It applies well to anyone who has to accept what they can’t control while still trying to make a positive contribution.
“God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.”Good luck.
Kevin MahoneyParticipantI agree that substantial changes may be better one at a time. For me, I notice that if I am focused too long on one major change I can become overly cautious regarding smaller changes that I would be better off just making and stop thinking about it. I ssppose the opposite is also true.
Kevin MahoneyParticipantThanks. Funny.. I have yet to read How to Win Friends & Influence People. Next book, I promise. I like the two highlighter idea. In terms of Netflix.. I recommend Hiro Dreams of Sushi if you have not watched it yet. It introduced me to the Shokunin concept.
Kevin MahoneyParticipantBob,
I appreciate the thoughtful feedback. Your first fundamental is so important. Yet, easy to forget. It reminds me of a Bill Parcel’s quote: “Blame Nobody, Expect Nothing, Do Something”. Did any books guide you in your discoveries?
Kevin MahoneyParticipantFunny. I say just keep swimming a lot, too. That is a good one.
Kevin MahoneyParticipantGlad you are back. I hope your travels went well and your time was productive…..
As far as the DS it is interesting that many people who are focussed on growth have not heard of it. I went back and saw that kanedr mentioned it to me on a post months ago. I am glad he did because I have found it very helpful as I am currently going through the home buying process.
As you said, it fits well in that type if situation. Like advice from an older relative that is valuable. It might not fit every situation but with the “big ones” it works well.
Again, glad you are back online.
Kevin MahoneyParticipantPearce,
Good luck and safe travels. I have appreciated your feedback. IMO, you are talented and strong communicator. My unsolicited advice is to keep writing as you travel.
Kevin MahoneyParticipantI like the Zevon quote/ sentiment. Going to grad school helped me to develop my current reading habits.
Here are my most recent reads:
Currently reading The Fifth Discipline / Senge and 5 Levels of Leadership /Maxwell
Hostage at the Table/ Kohlrieser
The New One Minute Manager / Blanchard
15 Invaluable Laws of Growth/ Maxwell
Leadership From the Inside Out / Cashman
Kevin MahoneyParticipantPearce. As always, I appreciate your thoughtful response. I also appreciate you sharing your personal story. What really stood out to me was your intentionality and consistent reflection. That is a good example for me. People focused on growth are highly reflective. A quote I find informative from John Maxwell is “experience is not the best teacher, reflective experience is”. I am trying to cultivate this more in myself. This is why am interested in learning more.
Kevin MahoneyParticipantDereck,
Good questions. For me, reading growth oriented material is a consistent source of motivation. There are a lot of quality growth oriented books out there. John Maxwell is a good starting point , IMO. It is pretty straightforward in regards to principles and practice. You can get a reading app on a tablet and get many books real cheap. You can also use a library account and get them for free with a time limit. If you go to actionablebooksdotcom (I have no affiliation, BTW) you can explore tons of books that you might find motivating. Good luck.
Kevin MahoneyParticipantPearce,
I appreciate your thoughts and encouragement. As the cliché says “there is no wrong answer”, just a way to try and get people’s thoughts on the issue. Your focus on growth, day to day, is a great example. Keep it up. I find I can get sidetracked by the busyness of life and responsibilities. A one day at a time, be better today than yesterday, perspective is a good way to go about maintaining a growth and grace perspective.
Kevin MahoneyParticipantKanedr,
Thanks for introducing the idea of the Descartes Square. It is new to me. I like the simplicity of the square system. I am glad you mentioned it.
Kevin MahoneyParticipantPearceHawk,
I liked your connection to mindfulness and being present as a way maintain a positive mindset. I am intrigued by the notion you raised about a measurable timeframe for what it “the present”. Honestly, 2.7 seconds sounds about right for describing the right herr, right now. I wonder if that connects to the rate at which our minds come up with new thoughts. If you can recall the source, I would love to check it out further.
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