<p style=”text-align: left;”>Hi Roberta,</p>
<p style=”text-align: left;”>thanks for your response. Like you said I guess the relationship is becoming too personal for her, but I wish she could just open up to me about it. I think I would be happier if I knew what she was thinking and if I had crossed boundaries in anyway, but not chatting with me as before, leaves me worried. I wish had a little closure though, that’s all I ask for at this point but asking her direct questions about her attitude changing towards me, she won’t say the truth rather she will deny it, so I don’t ask.</p>
<p style=”text-align: left;”>Also, she isn’t one to talk much, often times she is emotionless and prefers to not just talk about things.</p>
perhaps I just need time, rather than overthinking were I went wrong in our connection.

Hi Anita it’s been two months, just seeing your message since I decided to put all these happenings behind me. To be very honest, I am still hurting cos I feel like a lot of things have changed in our relationship(I and my Boss).

She doesn’t ask after me if I don’t speak to her for weeks and last year she promised it was okay to visit her sometime at her place, but she never talked about it since then.

I do ask her out to hangout sometime, but she never gives a positive response, instead she’d say she will be the one to invite me not me inviting her.

she neither wants to be my friend nor girlfriend and it hurts, but already she told me why though, she claims she wants to keep a small circle and she knows the type of friendship I want.

I still don’t  understand why you are nice to people and don’t want to be close friends with them, I mean we got up to that point.

We have a working relationship though, but not as close as before.

straight girls are mean to be honest, why do you play with peoples feelings like that, after giving them green light?

I really I am trying to understand what I did wrong, cos she is sort of being avoidant and won’t say. Is she irritated by my actions and body language that I maybe interested in her or what exactly? Cos I refuse to believe this is about what work and her being to busy to follow up with me like she used to.

I just need a straight field opinion on this.

Hi Anita

“If we are both mature about it, we can move on“- but what is the “it” that the two of you should be mature about: if she can really read your mind and you can read hers, then you would be having a mental honest and direct conversation and a chance to be mature and move on.

So by “It” I mean, I know for a fact she has an impression that I maybe into girls, but is just pretending not to know. I have done a lot of things and said a lot of stuff that is more than the normal friendship. For instance, last week, I showed her, what name I use in storing her contact on my phone and put it as “Dani my Love”. So this new development maybe strange to her, which is why I said she might be awkward when next we meet and it just depends on how mature we both are. She is not the religious type, she is very open-minded which is why I like her, but still even open-minded may not be open to being approached by same-sex. So that’s why I think she might be awkward and if she is mature, we can always forget the flirting ever happened and move on.

That’s very true Anita and I need the amicable relationship because I may need her help at anytime. She has been quite helpful and has been an Amazing Boss, so I am not going to let these feelings make me Selfish. But also I definitely need this coming week to be able to accept things, because that’s the only way I can move on and stare at reality and to only see that she is nice and friendly with everyone. I can’t believe I am the one typing this, it’s so easy to type but hard to achieve. So I’d respond to the side hugs if she gives it, but I ain’t pecking or hugging her ever again. I don’t want to get vulnerable again.

For the last part of your message, I don’t think I want to strike a conversation with her, except she brings it up and directly asks me, but of course we know most straight women wouldn’t.  I know for a fact that she has seen that my likeness maybe more as she is a very keen person. She has once told me she reads minds and understands human psychology. So Even when I get vulnerable, I will excuse myself politely like you said earlier and rinse my face with water to cool off.

Yes they hug her back

Hi Anita, sometimes if she is already sitted in the office, she opens up her arms for a side hug?how to do I evade this? As I only want to be saying hello from afar now 🤧🤧

Yea cos I find it weird, she has never felt irritated by my bear hugs or kisses or whispering in the ears. Women are not 100% straight, they more probably just have the feeling, but don’t act on it due to a plethora of reasons. Oh well,I really need space from her and I wish I can take leave for one whole week, so I don’t have to bump into her, perhaps as time goes on, I will ease into seeing her as just my superior and nothing more.   She knows I am attracted to her already, I just hope she doesn’t feel awkward around me though. Hoping we can both be mature about it.

Yea it’s good to know anyways that I wouldn’t be having any work place drama. Uhh!! Well by better things, I mean by drowning my self in work so I don’t have to ponder over my loss. That and I may reduce chatting with her too, hopefully she doesn’t notice. I just need space for now. Thank goodness we don’t go to work everyday, so that’s a huge advantage for me.