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  • #453703
    Roberta
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    Dear Elna.

    I am sorry that you feel alienated from your birth family. It is a natural human condition to want to feel connection with other human beings. It is hard to keep deep friendships active if our lives have basically been nomadic for what ever reason.

    What are your passions & joys? There are many different kinds of intentional communities all around the world. These communities could possibly offer that deep sense of connection & groundedness. Many of them welcome visitors/volunteers so they could make an ideal focus for your travels.

    May you fall asleep quickly & easily
    May you have sweet & pleasant dreams
    & May you awake feeling positive & refreshed.

    #453677
    Roberta
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    Dear Confused.

    My son has suffered from the Blah’s since their teens. One of first breakthroughs that i noticed was that we found a park that he could easily frequent, & then he joined a charity which help look after that park. He now volunteers one day a week for a homeless cafe & this really has shifted something for him. He sees & takes notice about the ways he can help others, even going out of his comfort zone.
    Just because your life feels grey to you, it does not stop you from bringing a little colour to someone else’s life. So volunteering for something that you think is a worthy cause could help to break the cycles of thinking about her.

    #453651
    Roberta
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    Dear Peter

    Thank you for the inspirational poetry.

    I hope to strive slowly & gently & not to be attached to outcomes. To be able to give & let go.
    To see the beauty & love around me & not let a judgmental mind rule.
    Best wishes to all at Tiny Buddha community

    #453613
    Roberta
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    Teachings on a precious human birth helps one realise what a rare opportunity we have & how to use this precious gift in conjunction with the bodhisatva vow, we can alleviate not only our personal suffering, but help others too.
    I aware that I, as do others have a body that is subject to sickness, old age & death this acceptance alone reduces my suffering.
    Meditation & wisdom teachings & ethical conduct help me to be less of a pain the butt to my self & others.
    wishing you all a wise & wonderful 2026

    #453496
    Roberta
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    Hi James
    You said that you found that a life of fame & fortune etc did not bring lasting or much happiness. My words “sickened with samsara you searched & found…….thru a combination of psycadelics & meditation ie getting to the destination using a jet plane. Now what? you wish to share & help others?
    I choose to walk the journey & may or may not get there, as I see it the path & destination are one but not the same.

    I hope you find a skillful way to show/impart any kernels of truths in a compassionate & timely manner to those that can see & understand in a compassionate & timely manner.

    #453493
    Roberta
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    Dear Squiggly pop

    There are definitely some interesting dynamics going on for you City, parents, job, & relationship.

    Has there ever been a place you have visited that you felt deeply connected to? If so there is a lovely website called workaway where you can either choose & or a location /job you fancy having a go at. Then you stay with real people & get bed & board in exchange for about 20+hrs a week work so it is a mini living experience rather than the unreality of a vacation experience.

    Do you have siblings? If so now might be a good time to have “The Conversation” of who is going to do what & when around your ageing parents care needs. If no-one is going to step up, then most if not all of their assets will be needed to take care of them & the children may even also have to help out financially.

    If you start to think of a romantic relationship as a bonus to your general sense of wellbeing /happiness rather than foundational to your happiness there will be more joy & less loneliness in your current life. Chemically nearly everyday we have a dip in our moods once you can see/pinpoint it then it is easier to accept & see it as part of life’s natural rhythm.

    Assess what is truly important, the kind of job you want , is it for status, large financial gain, are you concerned at all about the ethics around of the line of work you want to do?
    Kind regards
    Roberta

    #453440
    Roberta
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    Dear James
    this is part of your quote dated 27/12/25 ego can’t even see what is even written on the post because of pre judgement.
    So you mistaking me for Thomas & Anita for Alessa over the last few days was that your ego at play? or is it just a human quirky thing, I often get my sons names mixed up even when they are standing in front of me(Ego, brain fart who knows?) & who is the who that knows?
    What is conscious, mind, soul? what happens to them when the physical body dies or even before the body is born? Science & philosophers & sages have pondered this over the millennia.
    I guess in the meantime being a bear of very little brain I will just try to concentrate on being kind with a dash of inquisitiveness & try not to do too much damage to my self or others.
    Regards
    Roberta

    #453379
    Roberta
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    Hi James
    Have you happiness in your life now? What changes did you make to your lifestyle after you came out of retreat? Can you still access that infinitenessness of love, intelligence & nothing?
    Can I ask what do you mean by nothing? ie no hatred, envy, greed, no obstructions to the truth of reality?
    Regards Roberta

    #453352
    Roberta
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    Dear James

    You say no one supported you. so you gathered a years worth of food, toilet roll etc all in one go & just ate raw?
    The person i knew -Lhundrop is/was a monk , he spent time renovating a small space & someone from the monastery came up with food & left it in a darkened antichamber a small number of us donated a little each month to help cover his food costs.
    I did a 3 month solo retreat for 5 days a week, I could not afford or get time off, but I was doing 2 nightshifts, so I could do my practice between rounds & kept the retreatant mind whilst still performing my tasks & did mantra when walking from my hut to work & back. My son cooked & shopped for me I am still so grateful to him for the opportunity he gave me.
    We were advised that although there can be some amazing experiences during meditation they are not the purpose of meditation as one can easily get sidetracked by them, & start to crave them & will not ultimately lead to enlightenment.
    My experiences were not as lifechanging as yours. But I do get little glimpses of what you are alluding to ( words are a poor substitute for the real experience) & ponder on these things from time to time.
    Is it true that the effect of psychedelics can stay in the brain & lead to flash backs years later?
    Kind regards
    Roberta

    #453336
    Roberta
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    Dear James

    A year in the dark & meditating 8-9hours a day that is a very rare achievement. Who supported you in this endeavor?
    I know of one other person who has attempted this, but I do not know what their outcome was.
    What teachings/training did you receive to support you thru this?
    At the monastery there was a nun who would be the safekeeper for people attempting dark retreats if I remember correctly those were for a maximum of three months, she said many people quit just after a few days because of its intensity.
    Have you done any other retreats? I know that for me & others coming out of even short retreats, the outside world can initially feel fast paced & very superficial.
    Kind regards
    Roberta

    #453011
    Roberta
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    Dear Anita

    That was interesting about the deep seatedness of if X is this then Y has to be that.
    What do you believe good is? & how do you manifest it? This may help you clarify & reinforce the neural pathways you want to cultivate.
    Does drawing/painting & or physically writing with a pen help?
    For me visualization & mantra are a good medium to counteract negativity that arises in my mind & helps me move forward in a positive way.
    Best wishes
    Roberta

    #452962
    Roberta
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    I sat
    everything dropped away
    death held no fear
    then a thought appeared
    a sensation occurred
    busy was the I once again

    #452929
    Roberta
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    Hi Alessa
    Thank you for the link. Managed to read 59 of the 252 pages.
    Now I am off to a party where there will be a lot of inconsequential chatter but maybe amongst all of that there might be some insightful nuggets. I go with open ears & heart.
    Best wishes
    Roberta

    #452928
    Roberta
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    Hi Alessa
    A child’s laughter when it comes from pure innocent joy is such a precious thing to hear. Like the sound of glee when they jump into a puddle.
    As adults I think we can still touch that space, when we slow down & see any of the beauty or kindness that is available around us at any given moment, I like to marvel at the moon or a rose blooming in December, in those moments, it does not matter whether I am rich or poor sick or well, in a relationship or not.
    I hope you & your son are having a joyful & loving weekend.

    #452927
    Roberta
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    Hey Guys
    Ann’s last post was nearly a month ago. For whatever reason she is not engaging with us (Tiny Buddha Forum) so why, oh why do you two butt heads like rutting stags no matter what the thread?

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