Dear overpoint

Congratulations in the progress you have made with your healing.

I have 3 suggestions to try

Earthing/grounding  stand barefoot and or put your hands in earth for at least 15 mins you can imagine that the excess energy is flowing into the earth below you.

Tai Chi  again imagine the energy leaving thru your hands

if it is windy you can sit or stand and imagine the wind blowing thru you and taking the energy with it.

Wishing you all the best

Roberta

Dear Evfran

Looking at it from a different angle. You are doing a brilliant job of looking after your uncle and you know that once he breathes his last breath then control is handed over to a relative stranger, at least you know this in advance rather than it being slammed into you at one of your most vulnerable moments. Death & its aftermath often brings out the worst in people & families often get hurt & squabble for years over the most trivial of things as well as the big stuff.

Are you in touch with his son?  does his son know that his father does not have long to live?

What is your uncles belief system & how do they view the death process?

A visitor has just arrived so I will sign off

regards Roberta

I pray that you & your uncle have a peaceful time together and that his passing will also be peaceful.

Dear Danny

Not only to remind us of our own mortality, but also others. Most of us has lost touch with an old friend & thought about reaching out, but left it too late (this has happened to me in the last few days). The first & last things I say to my aged father each & everyday is “I love you”. The old saying of “never put off what you can do today until tomorrow” or “Don’t go to bed on an argument”.

Dear Rising Flower

making unreasonable requests like asking for kids whne I was not ready nor the circumstances areabsolitely not suitable, trying to control me whol to speak and what to speak, stopping me from doing my hobbies so I could love him.more or avoid making new friends). These are all red flags and signs of abusive & coercive behaviour.

Please try to spend more time with supportive family & friends building fun & strong relationship with them to help fill the void that you are currently in. Nature animals hobbies & volunteering are healthy pursuits, yes it may take some  considerable time to detox from L, but it will be worth it . I hope you meet someone who will allow you to flourish and that you are emotionally & physically attracted to so that L becomes a distant memory which is more in line with your statement  I’m emotionally strong and independent .

Hello Arden

I found my sisterhood thru concentrating on my spiritual life, all my close & supportive friends have the same priorities/outlook towards a spiritual life even if it is not the same religion. We laugh & support each other & are at ease with silence between us.

I hope that you can find a group of like minded people to spend time with and that it develops into a gentle & supportive friendship.

Hi Lulu

Whether you stay with your boyfriend or not is up to you. I guess you are now taking stock of the way you communicate. Things said out loud or written as obvious but there is also the tone & content of internal dialogue. Most people especially when we are young are not actively circumspect about what they say. Think Say Do is how we operate a lot of the time, this chain reaction can happen in seconds. ie tummy rumbles Think I am Hungry, Say internally I fancy a sandwich, Do make & eat the sandwich.

If we are glib about hurting ourselves & others it can slowly erode our ability to be kind & compassionate to ourselves & others. Words do have power.

Roberta

Dear Arie

Would you prefer your son to conform to your expectations and live a miserable unfulfilled life or for him to be a happy loving human being? Your son did a very brave thing coming out to his family about his preferences. We fall in love with the person not their gender.

Dear Me

I am sorry that your father has terminal cancer ( I looked after my mother at home up to a few weeks before her passing from cancer) my relationship with her had been rocky in the past,  I managed to put aside our past hurts.  I was with her when she passed peacefully.

My comment on this is not meant to be a critisim So I must live it by getting into extremly good shape, make as much money as I can and experience life.  Any statement using words like extremely can cause oneself a problem ie. if you dont meet the high standard of extremely fit how are you going to feel about yourself? Money does not necessarily equate to happiness ( how many rich & famous people have committed suicide or drank & drugged themselves to death). Would you be willing to compromise your health, friends and or ethics to get rich? What kinds life experiences are you looking for?

I pray that your father has a peaceful & pain free passing and that you go on to have a happy & fulfilling life.

Kind regards

Roberta