Why cant men be satisfied with what they have. And always try and get their partner to end things. Cowardly custards. And why are they always looking out for someone better or keeping their ex in the background like a backup.  Everywhere we go some girl makes eyes at him. The same type over and over, black hair, pointy nose. His exes all look like that too. So I doubt his attraction to me, cause Im opposite, Im fair,  small nose and round face with blond hair. And why do they give the line, I will be single for the rest of my life without you-righttttt. And if a man is taken, why do single women lower themselves to take happiness away from someone else. Cant they see hes with someone. When we started out he told his exes. Why. One even put her two cents in. Actually she still sends him a email once in awhile. I don’t think he loves me and wants her. Actually I worry she is the one and they will get back together.  I think she is waiting and missed out when she wouldn’t leave her country to relocate for him. The fact is she wouldn’t leave to start another life with him. Doesn’t that say how important he was to her. I would leave mine because I love him and see him as my priority.

Also I’ve been going through perimenopause so that’s added to things. When you can’t have children I sort of think he might look else where. I’m the same age as him.

4 years . I’m 39.  I was in a previous relationship where I was dumped all the time. I had no respect for myself and let that person use me for everything. He sexually assaulted me when we first met but I stayed.  He used to treat me like I was dumb so my confidence dropped. Then he dumped me finally when he found someone else and I found the love of my life . My partner treats me like a princess but I cause arguements to see if he truly loves me. When we go out I think he will stray and I won’t have him in my life anymore. It’s causes a panic. I start to become hyper and my heart races, things go through my mind like he’s going to marry someone else etc and I say things like I’m no good, not good enough, you love someone else, you want your old love back.  I’m trying to fix it. By not reacting. I’ve never had someone love me like he does but I’m scared it will end.

• This reply was modified 5 years, 9 months ago by sparkle00. Reason: Change
• This reply was modified 5 years, 9 months ago by sparkle00. Reason: Change

Not to be rude  however in response to your comment.  Quote: I’m not going to ask you anymore questions because I didn’t give you an answer on a previous thread.  Hello, I don’t have to answer.  It’s not compulsory.  don’t feel your advice is helpful, it’s your tone it’s very off putting.

• This reply was modified 6 years ago by sparkle00.

Thank you, but there’s more to the situation.  For 2 1/2 years no sexual contact (his choice), and this has never changed.  I’m worried that it will continue this way and we will lose our bond. Because we do have one. However he says that he has no urge and it’s not about how he feels about me.

thank you 🙂

I know he used to watch porn and I didn’t agree. Maybe because I said that.