Hey M- Him calling you crazy is a way out for him and his behavior and his way of turning the tables on you to make you feel guilty or the bad guy! And you lashing out is probably built up anger and resentment only due to his arrogance. Such a vicious cycle. Have you two seek counseling?

Our argument wasnt compliment based. He blow up on me for “nagging”. It was something that he did that I felt could have been more efficient so I called him out on it and because he rarely admits hes wrong, I keep going on with it wanting him just to admit he was wrong. Perhaps that was a little overboard on my end but I now realise that its because of ways that I have such anger towards him. Im really an easy going person and I try to be patient but in time that wears thin. I’ve come to learn that I either have to learn how to better communicate with him, accept that he is the way he is so I have to learn how to handle my reaction or just accept that our energies are suited for each other and to move on.

Hey M – you just wrote the same thing Ive been meaning to ask advice on! I wish I had more of an outsiders response but unfortunately, my bf is a bit like yours! I guess I can ask, overall does he make you feel loved, appreciated and compliments? And what does he say when you point these things out to him? From my standpoint, my partner doenst state how good looking he is but rather, how his ways is ALWAYS the right and the best way. Most time it feels as though Im always the one to compromise and it gets draining. Is this how you feel as well?

Dear Skyylar – my heart goes out to it really does. I’m glad you found this site, there are many wonderful people to help you on here, its quite a blessing. But I understand what your going through. Nothing feels good about rejection, but know that this time WILL pass. Emotions and events forever change like waves. You will see better days I promise you! Have you communicated this to your roommates btw? Perhaps the just dont know how you feel. In the meantime though, maybe you can look up meetup groups that share similar interests with you, thats a good way to find new friends. I am like you, I am somewhat quiet but we have to kinda force ourselves to get out there to increase our chances of meeting new people : ) I made a long time friend just from posting on this site! We have been friends for 4 yrs now. See, who wouldve known? As for the doctor, I’d say hold off for now. Maybe try to exercise or get out in nature to get that serotonin and of course come on here when your down. Sending you hugs..

-j

Hey Ashley – Im so sorry to hear what you’ve endured. Things will work themselves out especially for a good man and father like yourself. She was LUCKY to have you! I don’t have children so I cant give much advice on legal stuff but looks like your priorities are straight. Boy, she is a piece of work its scary. I wish I could understand why we are with the people we are with when one person is the giver while the other is the taker. Like you, Im too soft and nice for my own good and I’ve suffered. These people are lessons for us to learn from. I send you strength and support for your sons.

-Jane

Im so sorry, I know the feeling. Every cell in your body aches. Emotions will fluctuate like waves. You are strong though its just seeing him just set you back a little bit but you will get back to center. You did NOT make a mistake. He doesn’t sound like a nice person and I think you still are making the right decision. Hard as it is. Im going through the same thing at the moment so your not alone if that helps. Be strong and know your value.