Inky,

Earlier he had brought up how he really didn’t like that we had opposite schedules during the week days. He had also said that he was worried that if we DID see each other during the week we wouldn’t be as excited as we normally are when we see each other on the weekends. I think you are probably right saying that he felt it was too hard. Thank you for your input!

i texted him last night around midnight asking if everything was okay because he had not responded and he wrote me back this afternoon around. 4:30. He said he was sorry and wasn’t meaning to ignore me but he’s not sure about the future and feels that we shouldn’t move forward because he does not want to hurt me. And I told him it was okay and that I had just wished he had told me sooner and I felt like there was a lot of mixed signals. He wanted me to meet his parents and then meet my parents etc. just various things that would suggest moving the relationship forward. He just apologized over and over and that’s how our conversation ended. I’m very upset about this and I know there’s nothing I can do at this point. I guess I’m just curious if there is a possibility it could work out with someone space apart? Maybe if he thinks about it and realizes he does know what he wants.

I completely agree with everything you said. I think I may talk with him some more to get clarity on what exactly it means by not rushing.

Thank you for the input. I called him the other night and told him how I felt. He told me he’s not looking for a relationship right now. He also said it’s not completely off the table but I shouldn’t hold out for him. He just wants to stay casual right now basically. My friends think he is stringing me along and I’m kind of thinking the same thing. I know I shouldn’t hold out but, it’s difficult because I really do like him.

Anita,

After being separated from him for a week now (and talked with my friends), I feel like the best thing to do is to wait for him to reach out to me rather than me reach out to him. My friend told me my chances with him would be slimmer if I reached out to him. I also don’t want my feelings to get hurt again if he were not to respond or tell me he has no interest in talking to me ever. If he does reach out to me I will communicate all of my feelings I posted earlier. That way I will know for sure he is willing to hear me out. I will definitely practice this type of communication with other people in my life. Does this sound like a good decision?

Anita,

I want to resume a relationship with him with us working on our problems like the arguing. I want him to know that I now understand that I was causing the issue for the most part and I would like a second chance to be with him in a relationship the right way. No silly arguments where I make a big deal out of nothing.

This was all very helpful. Even though it’s not exactly what I want to hear, I need to hear it anyway. Thank you all for the advice!