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HelenParticipantThat’s great to hear. Life will get better, I promise! 🙂
Best of luck to you, keep us posted.
xx
HelenParticipantDear tulips8
No matter how much you think your life is not worth living – it is! Please, just believe me. We are strangers, but all I want to say is, I know how you feel.
Get some help – go to the hospital, go see a therapist. Get out of where you are right now, because it sounds like a violent environment. Go stay with friends or family if you can, someone or people who will support you right now. You and only YOU have the power to take life by the balls and live it! Do not give up, do not end it. Life is a beautiful struggle. Sometimes, it seems like it’s only a struggle, but it will get better, it will! I just hope you take these words to heart, because they come from the heart.
If you just need to talk to someone, feel free to message me!
Lots of love
HelenHelenParticipantDear Jeanne
To inspire you, read the life story of brave and powerful Jeanne d’Arc, or known in english Joan of Arc: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Joan_of_Arc
I am deeply touched by your story and am sorry to hear that people have turned their backs on you. Now, I am not bipolar but my father is and I myself struggle with anxiety and depression. I have anxiety and panic attacks for no reason (or not clearly) and it’s hard and very difficult to explain to others. But I have decided to not let this define me. I know, this may seem very rude to say, but you need to get your vision about you straight: yes, you have these issues and illnesses, and yes, they are probably always going to be a part of you BUT they are not all you are.
With the right mindset, a therapist (you didn’t mention you are seeing anyone?) and maybe the right medication (doesn’t need to be forever) you will find your way. I really do wish you all the best, please don’t give up – ever!
Much love,
HelenHelenParticipantDear tulips8
I am sorry to hear your therapist was rather unprofessional. She probably have really bad issues of her own, but it is not okay for her to tell them to you.
But please don’t be scared of this now. Look for a therapist, maybe a psychiatrist or really professional psychologist.
I wish you all the best!
Helen
HelenParticipantThank you guys for your answers. You were right. I was out of line and almost lost him. Luckily, we got over it.
HelenParticipantThen find someone, maybe in your family or an old friend who you maybe are not in touch with at the moment. I’m sure there is always someone who wants to help you, even if you don’t think so. And remember: you have friends here, who can listen an be there for you.
Maybe the guy you’re dating feels confused and doesn’t know what to do…just like you? It might be worth a try to reach out to him again. But also, Grace is right, he should have been there in the first place. But men…sometimes they just don’t get it, do they? 🙂
I wish you all the best during this hard time. You can do it.
HelenParticipantDear rhea
I don’t want to answer you in Marie’s behalf. But yes, I think your friend is absolutely right. 🙂 As long as you neglect yourself, you can not take care of others without drowning at some point down the road.
All the best!
HelenOctober 30, 2013 at 9:00 am in reply to: Anxiety, Unhappiness and almost done with college: WHAT TO DO? #44574HelenParticipantDear Alexy
I’m sorry to hear about your struggles. Anxiety is very serious and can infiltrate your life a lot. It is very normal to get anxious when you realize that soon you will be pushed (so to speak) into this big, scary world. I would say, maybe go see a counselor if the anxiety is really bad. If not, surely finish your degree because even if you might not like it now, you may want to have a job in that area later. If you can, maybe go travel after you’re done with your studies.
Hope I was helpful.
All the best
HelenHelenParticipantDear reha
I am much younger than you, I would assume. But what I can share from my experience is that I had a mother who – during my younger years – was often very unhappy. Even though she focused not only on us children, but she focused on the wrong men. So I guess what I want to say is: a happy mother makes a good mother. If you only, and only live for your kids, you will burn out quickly. There is a saying that yes, you should give to others as much as you can, but don’t give so much that it takes energy from you and who you are. Take care of your happiness, maybe do things like exercise or a new hobby just for yourself but also fun activities with your kids.
Be happy for you – and with that ultimately for your children.
I hope I could help a little.
All the best to you
HelenHelenParticipantDear Jessica
I’m sorry to hear about your grandfather.
I am guessing that what GraceInMotion said is correct. You might be reaching out to the wrong person. I’m sure you have great friends around you that could be there to give you love and support. And if it’s not that guy – or if he is not able to do it yet – focus on yourself and not on him. You have to take care of YOU now.
I wish you all the best
HelenHelenParticipantThank you guys for your answers.
HelenParticipantHey lishylish.
I know what you are feeling. But in order for you to really overcome depression, please do not and never feel guilty about it. Depression is an illness, and being ill can make you feel guilty. Because you know you are not being yourself, you push people away, you might not excel at work (I have experienced all of the above). But just like someone who has cancer, your illness has to be treated. And luckily, you say you have overcome it – which is wonderful!
Do not feel ashamed or guilty, because this will lead you into this vicious circle again.Enjoy your life and be content and thankful that you’ve overcome it!
Hope I could help.
Namaste
HelenHelenParticipantDearest Matt
That is true. This is still a new territory for me, as this is the first real longer-term relationship I’ve ever had.
Thank you!
Namaste
HelenParticipantDear Jade
Thank you for responding. You are totally right, three months is actually short time to build that essential trust with someone. I just feel like whenever I try and tell him that trust doesn’t come automatically and that he has to earn it, he feels insulted. Which is his problem actually… 😉
I do take birth control, but only for over a month now (a non estrogen pill with pretty much no side effects), and this started way back when we first were dating. So I know it has to do with my anxiety and trust issues.
Matt, thank you for the recommendation I will definitely look it up. Can you elaborate on what you meant with confusion and trying to make it fit to our feelings?
Namaste
HelenHelenParticipantDear Matt
Your words truly make me feel better. Thank you for that.
You are right, but I am someone who thinks more about these things than a lot of friends and people I know. When I talk to my friends they just ask “Why do you worry so much, girl? He really loves, he’s not gonna do anything that could make him lose you.” Maybe I am someone who needs more attention, more confirmation if you want that the feelings are indeed there – at least in the here and now. I am not asking him to promise me forever. I just want to feel save and loved here and now. And sometimes I feel like he does not see it as very serious – like I said before, he likes to provoke me in the moments I would need his lovely, caring and serious side the most. So it’s hard. I can’t figure out if we truly are not compatible, or if I just have to – like you say – accept the feelings but not react on them. I really don’t react on them quite often, I kept them locked inside, afraid he is going to walk away if I do.
It’s hard to talk to someone about these things who absolutely doesn’t know what it is like to be so unstable an insecure at times. Like I said above, I was doing very well before I met him. But because I have this intense relationship with him, and he’s a new person in my life, it brings a lot of things back up that I though were over and done with. See, that is what I’m trying to figure out: is HE the reason I feel so insecure? Would another man make me feel safer because he knew it was important to me? Or is it good for me to be confronted with these things, that are very normal in new relationships?
It does take a while for me to feel comfortable with someone and trust someone fully – naturally, like for all of us.I often feel like: what the heck? Can I ask this of him? When he does something that really goes against my gut, I will say it and I will stand up for it. But there some things that are very much blurred lines, where I do not know what to think, feel or react. I guess you are right, I need more time to nurture and free my mind, meditate, do yoga. So many things that I have been talking about for more than a year, wanting to pick them up again. And I will.
I guess my final question to myself is: am I generally unhealthy at the moment or is he making me unhealthy?
Thanks again, Matt.
Namaste
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