Hugs Risha,

Quite a few years ago,  I was in a relationship of 7-8 years with a man who showed himself to be extremely dishonest.  I caught him cheating on me red-handed. I think he did many selfish things and constantly needed attention.  I felt so hurt and traumatised at the end of that relationship. I too went into the relationship not long after my father died.

Its been quite a few years now,  and I truly thank God that I did not marry him,  or worse – have children with me.

After the relationship ended,  and he had burnt more bridges with more wonen,  he tried to worm his way back into my life.   Dont be surprised if your ex tries this too.  Fortunately,  when this happened,  I just felt so grossed out by things he had done,  that I wouldnt let him back in my life.  My life has turned out so much better without him.  Yours will too.

Forgive yourself for sprnding that timr with him.  From time to time,  I feel like kicking myself for whst I see as wasting years,  but a friend pointed out to me that my real soulmate,  if there is such a person,  may not have been ready and available to meet me in the years I was invoinvolved with that one.

So many good things are going to happen for ypu,  and your life can now start opening up.

Alia,  early 40s actually isnt that old in the workforce.    Its harder to get jobs late 50s, but it also depends on the type of work you do,  and whether you can settle and manage with part-time/ casual as in most regions,  there is more of that type of work.  Im wishing good things for you.

• Hello,  this is my first post hete.  I just want to say that I truly understand because I am currently going through a very similar situation.  I am 58 years old.

I did actually make an error.  I know this sounds like Im making an excuse,  perhaps I am,  but I was wworking under extreme duress in that I was being rostered to travel 992kms each way to work a one hour shift with no financial rrimbursement because of how my sshifts were structured that day.  I klive in rural Australia where petrol costs are high (Im a community carer in aged care).  I wotk for a Christian-based organusation.

From what my manager had said to me,  the organisatiin has not gotten the contracts they expected to, and it couldcbe that the jibs in this region will fold up.

I know for a fact that until very recent times,  they got a lot of good feedback from clients on me.  Since this hapoened,  I feel Im being demonised. Now there are other accusations made against me.

I thI think its possible that they are looking for a reason to either sack me or be so unpleasant that I will leave of my own accord.

AAlia,

It doesnt make sense to me that a person with a good work record is in ssuch a short time then regarfrd in such a different light.

I pray the universe will taje goid care if both of us.