I would like to be more trusting of people. Until then, I don’t want to waste their time until I’m truly interested. I’m not saying everyone who tries to be polite is fake. From my experience, many automatically act like this out of obligation, even when they truly do not care about another person.
There are many things I like about myself and many things I want to improve. I do feel kind of disconnected from the society I live in because many people who are praised for their positivity are not the kind of people that I prefer to be around. They do not seem genuine. There are people who think you should smile all the time and be polite to everyone by saying certain phrases. I don’t think that is positive. You may have wasted someone’s time who thought you genuinely liked talking to them.
I see one friend once a week and another once a month. They have responsibilities and do not have the time. I have been to meetup groups in the past, but most people start with the stock questions.
Maybe the difference is that I mostly interact with workers at stores and they usually are told to socialize to create a pleasant environment. I don’t see my real friends in person very often. It can be frustrating meeting new people because often the conversations start with the stock questions that many people ask. Not everyone wants to talk about their job or their family.
I get to the point by sharing things that are relevant to the topic. It seemed you were suggesting I wasn’t sharing enough with my response. If that’s not the case then maybe I misinterpreted what you wrote.
I like to get to the point when I communicate. I did respond to the questions you asked. I’m not sure why it is important to share the subject I am studying.
This reply was modified 2 years, 3 months ago by Brian.
I live alone. Family is on the other side of the country. I have a close friend, but we see each other once a week at the most. Are you a moderator here?
I’m OK. Still haven’t made new connections with people. It has been difficult for me for a long time because I’m usually guarded around new people. I’m trying to keep my thinking out of fight/flight mode.
Thank you for the suggestions. Sometimes I need to be reminded of things I already know. I need to control my thoughts better and reach out to people more. Getting to know new people has been difficult for me. In the United States, it is very common for someone to ask about your job right away. People expect someone of my age to have a career and not be in school. I need to get over that and accept that some people might judge me for it.
As far as future goals, I am working towards getting a degree online so I can have more opportunities. I go to a coffee shop every other day to study to give myself structure.
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