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  • #366930
    James15
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    She has always been like that, so I think she is impulsive. I woke up this morning to a text from her telling me the guy is now ghosting her and I told her I was sorry. She then FaceTimed me and she seemed really upset and vented to me about it. I’m not sure if she’s just using me when he’s not around or what the situation is.

    #366916
    James15
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    Update (A little confused on what this means but positive). My ex and I talked a little more today on snapchat and we joked a little bit, not too much. Tonight, after she was finished with her work shift, I got a text from her and it was a tik Tok making fun of me (as a joke). She then called me and sounded a little stressed and said “I need your advice on this guy”. Now, at first I was a little upset that she came to me after she asked space from me. Anyways, she vented and told me that he had ignored her feelings, pushed her away, she even called him “manipulative”, told me he constantly discussed his depressive issues. Putting my jealously aside, I’m proud I was able, I was kind and nice and I gave her advice like she was a friend coming to me. However, she talked about how she really liked him.

    However, things got awkward. During this conversation we started talking about what we wanted in relationships. A lot of what we said matched with what each other wanted. Then, she says “wow, we’ve been on call an hour and it feels like only 10 minutes with you”. The conversation was going well, it was positive, and we laughed and I joked with her, and then the conversation about the other guy faded away. She then said “I really am attracted to guys who workout and their backs and your back is so attractive especially your freckles all over your shoulders”. Ok, I was a little confused because at that moment she was flirting with me, but I played this off and continued to talk. Then she was like “lets do something fun, let’s take a love quiz together”. I went along with this, but throughout the whole thing we started to talk about our relationship more and what we wanted in relationships.

    At the end of talking, she started flirting again and said “you know if you ever want to do fwb stuff or have some fun let me know”. Multiple times, she also hit on me through this, but again I played this off.

     

    She seems to really like this guy, but when we started talking I noticed I had matured in my communication skills since we broke up and it seemed we had the same mindset on things. I’m happy I was able to give her advice and that she trusts me and now knows maybe I was right, but when she started flirting with me I’m not sure if this means she still has feelings or just wants to do some fwb stuff.

    #366885
    James15
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    I’ve been snapping her streaks once per day. She usually immediately snaps back and I leave her on delivered for a day because she asked that I don’t talk to her that much. I’m really wondering if I should start snapping her a little more, but do you think I should keep it at the once a day streaks and leave her on delivered until the next day?

    #366849
    James15
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    Yeah, I don’t think it’s a good idea for us to date again. She texted me again this morning, although way less than yesterday, and asked me a question about economics.  I do have family members, but over Covid I’ve lost most of the contacts I keep while irl. My confusion is just based around if she’s texting me to generally ask me questions or is she trying to start up a conversation.

    #366842
    James15
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    Just a quick update. This morning I woke up to a text from her asking me what I thought about healthcare and economics (we both like politics and we both take economics). We texted for about 30 minutes where we talked about the material etc. She was overwhelmingly friendly, even calling me a “cute” nickname she has for me which I found awkward. I’m not sure if this is a good sign, or is this just her reaching out to be nice.

    #366782
    James15
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    Actually, thinking back (sorry, I’ve had a long day) I asked her yesterday would streaks be ok and she said “yeah its fine, snaps don’t really bother me”.

    Should I still send something like that above or just leave it at streaks with no more communication until she contacts me?

    #366775
    James15
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    Hey blank, I am sorry for my behavior the other night and how it hurt you. I was rude to you, said things that I didn’t mean and will never mean, intruded on your relationship and friendship with another person, and I let strong emotions, like jealously, pour over me and then jumped to conclusions. I’m sorry. I promise this won’t happen again. I’m going to give you what you asked for, some time away from me and I hope this time will allow you to heal. I won’t be contacting you unless you contact me first. Contact me anytime you want or need anything. Good luck with school 😊 🐈 (I have a cat she loved so I’ll add that in there)

    What do you think of this?

    • This reply was modified 6 days, 2 hours ago by James15.
    #366772
    James15
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    Thank you, I really appreciate the advice and it gives me comfort knowing that I have some help. Just a question, do you think me messaging her again after all the apologizing and talking yesterday would be too much and feel like I’m contacting her again? I have a streak going with her (we sent each other snaps today, just blank pics).

    • This reply was modified 6 days, 3 hours ago by James15.
    #366765
    James15
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    I never met her in real life, but we had plans to meet up. I met her parents and friends and she met my friends and my parents. Everything was over online, but we were close on all platforms (ft, texting, calling, discord, snapchat, instagram, etc). She removed me from her instagram and is not allowing us to share activity anymore on our apple watches. She told me she did this when she was upset with me.

    • This reply was modified 6 days, 3 hours ago by James15.
    #366763
    James15
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    It was an online relationship, but it worked  well until the last few months. We knew each others families, friends, etc.

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