Thanks Big Blue

Your compliment put a huge smile on my face. Thank you 🙂

J

Hi Miguel

Checked your site out. Good effort. But hey, you have excluded 50 % of the teens by making it male exclusive. Why do that ? It is not good for the traffic flow.

And pls do check out the Anthony Robbins website or CDs. It will tell you how to align your goals with the right actions.

Have patience. Every successful site takes a number of years. Nothing happens in a nano second lol

J

Hey Nanette

Pls don’t feel that I am offended. Perhaps, I did not articulate myself well when I was talking about the aspect of “teaching”. I agree that we are all learning and teaching others in some form or other. I was trying to understand the “underlying” intention of teaching others. I will try again 🙂

When our intention of teaching others becomes based on a desire to bring about a change in the other person as we feel they could benefit from it, then it can erode our own positive energy. On the other hand, if we our intention is to only grow and hope our experiences can inspire others to bring about a positive change (when and how the other person wants it), then our actions do not lead to unfavourable outcomes. We are not interfering actively in other people’s journey.

It is basically saying that I accept myself the way I am but I also accept everyone else as they are. It is honouring ourselves and others for the perfect higher beings (not humans) that we are. It is also affirming that I am not here to show anyone their path or lead others onto to a better path as I don’t know any better (we are all students in the big schemes of things and the day we start thinking of ourselves like a teacher, our arrogance takes over the inward journey). Everyone is on their own journey and if I can aid them along the way, well and good but without an expectation for such a change.

Hope this makes it a little more clear. If it doesn’t, no worries either 🙂

Love your 2 posts on TB. Keep up the good work.

J

Hi Big Blue

Not sure which “light bulb” went off ? Care to explain ? Though glad that the words resonated with you at some level 🙂

J

Hi Lee

I am sorry that you are finding yourself in such a dilemma.

Hey, our actions do not lead to mistakes ever. It is a wrong belief that many of us have been brought up to believe in endlessly. All actions lead to an outcome and if we are wise enough, we learn a valuable lesson from each of those outcomes – either favourable or non favourable. In other words, everything that happens in life is to teach us something about ourselves so that we can progress further in our spiritual, emotional and physical journey.

You are right that decisions should be based on love and not fear. When we make decisions with underlying fear, we tend to create unfavourable outcomes for ourselves. After all, everything that happens in our lives is also our own creation somewhere along the lines. Either consciously or subconsciously, we have chosen to be in the state we are in. This is a very profound statement and I hope you will ponder over it for a few minutes.

Nothing that you do will be a wrong choice. Remember, there are no wrong choices – there are actions and each action leads to outcomes. Some outcomes work for us and some don’t but each outcome has the potential to move us forward in life if we let them. You can still turn things around for yourself and hubby.

Perhaps, you need to figure out the following: What does LEE truly want ? What will fulfil LEE ? What is the status of your relationship with yourself and husband ? Are you in love with yourself and husband ? Do you feel anything is missing in life ? If you couldn’t have children, would it alter your life in a huge way ? Will it make you a lesser of a person ? If you were to die tomo without having kids, would your heart be left with unfulfilled desires ? If you were to leave your husband and adopt a child, would you be happy ? Do you want your own kid or someone’s else kid will do ? Would you like to have a kid with another partner down the road ?

I will share my experience with you: I am a female and have been married to my husband for more than a decade now. I am 36 as well. He wanted kids from day one and I wasn’t sure as I was quite career oriented in my earlier years. Few years ago after settling down in all aspects of life, I told him, I do not feel a need for a kid of my own and if he really wanted a kid of his own, he should move on and find someone else as I may not change my mind. We had a few deep and meaningful conversations over a course of 2-3 years. Finally, we came to an understanding that our time together was more important than having a biological child. We had an option of adopting a child, which is always open. But as the time has gone on, we have both evolved and don’t feel the need to expand our families at the present moment. Instead, we have gone into supporting kids of a few under privileged families and it feels great. What we have done may not suit you as your circumstances might be different but I suggest that you both sit down and figure out what is important for both of you in the short and long run.

I feel kids benefit from a loving and responsible set of parents. If one is missing, the kid may grow up fine but may always have a regret that he or she didn’t have a complete family. You know what I mean ?

Do what your heart says is right. Either way, it will be for your highest good if you can have faith in my faith.

Loads of positive energy coming your way,

Jasmine

Hi Chloe,

Life can be as simple as we want it to be and it can be as profound as you want it to be. Choice is in your hands.

You are either showing true Chloe in the relationship or you are not. If you are not, then practice on becoming more authentic Chloe. Whats the worst that can happen ? 4 more guys may leave you ? In the big scheme of things, that is not so bad. But not being authentic Chloe will definitely make a difference in the big scheme of things. Our happiness and love lies within us and when we are able to be just US that love flows out.

We cant fix daddy issues but we can work on becoming more authentic self. It is not as hard as it sounds once you start practicing it.

Cheers

J

Hi Nanette

Thanks for a beautiful and valid query.

Hey, everyone is on their own journey. Unfortunately, we cant hurry someone else on their journey even when we know that it may benefit them. Everyone has to make their own choices and decisions to lead the life they wish to lead. You have chosen to break free and embrace Nanette for who she is – which is great and awesome. And I am not surprised that things are going your way. This is one of the consequences of embracing self – we suddenly realise that we are the creators of our own destinies. How cool !

How can you help your loved ones along the process ? Simply by giving them more love. Now that you have more inner power and love within yourself from the self care and nurture, you can share more of the same with others. Eventually, everyone will benefit from this :).

It is very easy to get distracted by the chatter outside when we are undertaking an inner journey. Please do not get fooled by this. Keep marching forward with your head held high up. You are on the right path !!!

Blessings,

Jasmine

Hi Aiyana

Hey, I believe in simplicity and live and let live so my advice is going to be similar. You continue being in love with mom and looking after her. Don’t expect others to do the same. People don’t work that way, yeah. You cant convince people to do anything they do not wish to do be it family, friends, or anyone for that matter.

Often the drama is in our hearts or minds and it gets projected outside. If you do not like drama, learn to say NO to it and simplify your life by assessing what is important and not important in life. Move on from things that do not serve a purpose or if you cant move on, accept them for what they are without expecting anything in return. Also, this site is great for resources that can help you simplify your life. Have a read of some of the articles posted on the main page.

Sending a prayer for all loved ones daily helps to bring immense joy in your life as well as the other person. Perhaps, try that 🙂 if you are not already doing it.

Cheers,

Jasmine