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  • June 19, 2014 at 5:57 pm #59197
    bill
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    8 years ago I finally broke into working in a nonprofit where I could use at least some of my interests to earn a living. Then the recession came and it closed. I used all kinds of strategies to keep working and keep my dream alive. But even making a living became a huge challenge. Despite having skills and a Master’s Degree, I was struggling.

    I am still struggling. I will turn 59 in July. I have spent my whole life striving to have a creative, passionate career. I have tried various angles for combining my mission and my talents. But I keep ending up in lower and lower paying jobs. My income went down from the high 30s 10 years age to the mid 20s and now it is $190 a week in unemployment since being laid off from a job telemarketing job.

    I live in a cheap $500 a month apartment I may soon be unable to pay for. I have no money or time to go on dates. I am nice and fairly good looking but haven’t had a girlfriend since these troubles began and have missed my chance to have a family and kids.

    As I face old age I feel extremely depressed about how my creative efforts have failed. I am trying to get any job. I do not have to have it in my passion (but gee wouldn’t that be nice before the end of my days?). I sunk so much into my career. I tried different approaches. I would do any work to pay my rent. I have fallen into the lower class.

    I don’t plan to stop working so I need to eventually find a way to make my work more in an area(s) of my interests and passions since that is what I am going to spend most of my time doing until I am 80 years old should I live so long.

    I am told I am a good writer – very good. I blog on other the websites of organizations that do work I am interested in.

    It just seems to me the Universe has said that I am not supposed to get any fulfillment in this lifetime. That my fate is to experience disappointment to the greatest possible level. That is what it seems.

    June 19, 2014 at 6:21 pm #59203
    @Jasmine-3
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    Hi Bill

    I am not as wise as yourself but I will try to provide my perspective here.

    Universe never says NO and nor it is your fate to experience disappointment to the greatest possible level. It is us who fail to understand the meaning of fulfilments and what our innate desires are. Universal consciousness is very clear cut like the nature. Everything happens in a flow and at its own time. If we try to run against the tide, you know what can happen, yeah ?

    Our belief systems can make or break us. Perhaps, the time has come to re-evaluate your inner beliefs and what do you keep telling yourself on a continual basis. You will find the root cause of your problem in one of the limiting beliefs that you hold dear to your heart.

    Can I recommend the following, pls:

    – A book titled “leading an unexceptional life” by Louise Hay and Cheryl Davidson
    – CD titled “Unlimited Power” by Anthony Robbins – he discusses the difference between a successful human vs someone who is just a mediocre. Extremely useful to get to you on the right path.

    And I am so glad that you are still positive enough to keep trying.

    Good luck mate and loads of positive energy coming your way.

    Jasmine

    June 19, 2014 at 7:31 pm #59213
    lucyb
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    Hello Bill, I think you should stop ‘struggling’ and ‘striving’ and see where life takes you. Sometimes by letting go you get where you need to be. I know this is easier said than done. Maybe concentrate on what you have & not on what you don’t have – open yourself to receiving what you need, which might not be what you think you want. Don’t complicate it with strategies or intellectualising – try to take it easy & be at peace. The class system, btw, is a construct of society and has no bearing on anything unless you let it – you can rise above it. Many of the most influential people in history were dirt-poor money-wise but very wealthy in other ways.

    For inspiration in holding to your inner light, you could read ‘Man’s Search for Meaning’ by Viktor E. Frankl.

    I hope you find what you need,

    Lucy

    June 20, 2014 at 2:43 pm #59277
    bill
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    I can relate to the idea of opening to the unexpected. Every day brings something a beauty if you are looking around. But I really am not comfortable with complete surrender to fate – “cast my fate to the wind” approach. I feel one of my reasons for being in the world is to help the earth and perhaps other social causes using my talents. I look around and I see that the earth is sick and it is the place we live.
    To get certain things – a fulfilling career, better income and a mate won’t just happen. It requires consistent effort. Getting these things is no guarantee of well being as this site will make clear. But in our culture, you sort of have to go out and get these things or accept what gets handed to you which may not be very pretty. Of course you could deliberately seek an awful life experience as a way to develop mindfulness and gain enlightenment and progress many lifetimes just like that.

    June 20, 2014 at 5:09 pm #59282
    lucyb
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    “But in our culture, you sort of have to go out and get these things or accept what gets handed to you which may not be very pretty.”

    Opportunities present themselves if you’re on the lookout & open to them – I think our culture is restrictive in that it teaches us we have to fight for stuff and i don’t believe that’s how things work. But here’s something that popped up when i got a broken link on this site and I thought of you:

    http://tinybuddha.com/blog/making-your-passion-your-career-despite-the-naysayers/

    Also you might like this: http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/014311459X?*Version*=1&*entries*=0

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    June 21, 2014 at 12:37 pm #59317
    bill
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    I saw that a while back and it is good. I agree that you should ignore naysayers. But at the same time, to be able to follow a passion, it helps to be laid back enough to actually enjoy things. If everything becomes a driven struggle for success then the joy gets killed. People get so serious about their “passions” that they can’t feel passionate anymore because they are all uptight – (they being myself at times). I think the culture does emphasize serious striving to the point the the striving becomes pointless.

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