Hi Fuad Murad

This is a very unusual alias and one, which I have not come across before 🙂

One short and simple advice: do what makes YOU happy. Forget about the world, family and fiancé for once and just focus on your needs. If you are OK, everything will set right into where it needs to be.

May you get the courage to listen to your inner being and soar as high as you can. Make some good music Fuad !!!

Blessings and loads of positive energy coming your way,

Jasmine

Thanks Ruminant @theruminant – I was missing your presence on TB and am so glad to see you back. Hope life is good. Read your earlier post to Dez – whats the talk about not being in the right frame of mind ? Wassup ?

Hey Inky

Thanks for your very interesting post and a thought provoking question.

First of all, I would like to make it clear that I am not a Buddhist nor do I follow any other religion. I know enough about each religion and none of them define me or my presence in this world. When I figured this out, it took a lot of the weight off my shoulders as I don’t have to follow anything as a prescription or be someone that society looks up to as role models. However, they are all teaching the same thing – love yourself and love others like yourself, yeah ? The love here is unconditional love and not the usual love we talk about.

Just to give you a little background to how my life started and what I have come to become. I was born into a family who is blessed in everyway and I got married into a family which is also blessed in every possible way. Excellent loving and spiritual parents, siblings, love, money, good values, education, many homes, many holidays, no debts etc. Everything anyone can wish for really. However, it took me a long time to realise the importance of each.

Thanks to my upbringing, I had achieved a lot at a very young age and done a lot of things that I wanted to do and then came a question one day – Who am I ? What am I doing ? Why am I doing all this and What is the purpose of it all ? What is more left to do ? Does life keep going on like this ? After spending some time reading about different religions and spirituality, I took up meditation and started to learn more about Who am I.

With increasing awareness, came along many spiritual teachers, who guided me along the path in a way that I could follow. However, being a rebel from a young age, this phase did not come without its own challenges. I was questioning everything and everyone. Then, came the realisation that, hey, what do I want ? I had no answer to this and thanks to the Universal consciousness, a divine soul found me who could answer this for me and wah lah, things have never been easier. I don’t feel the need to question anymore and every time I have a question, it gets answered even before I have to chuck it out into the Universe.

So what did I find and learn, which helped soothe my soul and awareness: We are all one. We are part of this higher consciousness and we are all looking for same things – Unconditional love, acceptance and forgiveness. We are not necessarily here to get degrees after degrees, earn more money, build homes or collect as many diamonds as we can but rather to help this humanity out through the current times. We are the channels through which higher consciousness is trying to bring more light into this Planet. If we go with the flow of letting the higher consciousness carry out its divine tasks through us, everything will become easy for us and we will feel calm, content, peaceful and happy. Obstruct this mission and we will start acting through our lower self and lead a life of finite dimensions, which is often laden with miseries, poor health and lots of wants and desires.

Another way of looking at this is that everyone is playing a role in the film EARTH. When we go outside of our defined role, we start obstructing the flow of the movie. And how do we go about obstructing the flow: We do not show care and love for others, we forget to respect other actors (other earthlings) and we start to interfere with the script of other actors (other earthlings) by saying that they should act in the way that we want them to etc. Why do we do this ? Out of ignorance and arrogance. Our ignorance and arrogance starts to define each and every action of ours.

So coming back to your question: No, you are not being lazy but you are not going with the flow of your life or script either as if you were, you wouldn’t be asking this question :).

I will share my script here: I have a busy schedule with work, which never ends and family life but there are a few priorities in life that never take a back seat anymore. I:
– spend 1 hour doing meditation everyday and offering prayers for everyone;
– listen to positive lectures for an hour just before going to bed everyday;
– spend time entertaining my dogs everyday at least 2 times a day;
– also exercise 2-3 times a week doing cardio and weights;
– listen to the music that I just love for at least 30 mins everyday;
– spend some time with my hubby everyday talking and having meals together as schedule allows;
– make it a point to bring happiness or positivity to as many people as I can everyday – either as part of my work, in the park, TB forums, friends, family etc.
– run away in the opposite direction as soon as I realise that my positivity is endangered in presence of someone or something – this one takes a lot of practice.

These are my unnegotiable priorities.

Every thing else is negotiable but I do not rush through things anymore. I try to be in the moment and also make an effort to understand what the moment is trying to get me to learn. I don’t take feedback as criticism anymore and nor do I get upset if someone tries to ruin my day with their issues. I just try to look at everyone as if they are just another version of ME but in a different body trying to grow their awareness. If I make a commitment to someone, I fulfil it. If I cant fulfil it, I say NO. I never say YES at the spur of a moment anymore. I always think about my priorities first and then make a decision.

In simple terms: I usually have my plate half full only nowadays so that I can really enjoy every activity and people in my life. I am living my life as ME within my defined role and I cant tell you how good it feels 🙂

Hope this helps and is not off the tangent.

Cheers

J

Thanks Suze.

You ought to become a writer. You have a hidden talent screaming to come out 🙂

I know where you are coming from and I can assure you that as consciousness grows, you will understand that all we are seeing is our mind’s projection. Until, we are stuck in the duality state of human mind, there will always be misery.

You seem like a very evolved soul stuck in the wrong frame of mind. Have you considered trying meditation or seeking a spiritual teacher out to help you evolve further ? Just a thought.

Perhaps, trying out energy healing through an accredited practitioner may give you some of the relief that your soul seeks. You can still do CBT and take your meds with it.

Blessings and may the world around you become a little kinder and more rosy :). Let the grievances towards your mother go – you will feel so much lighter the moment you let it be.

J

Hi CJ

I understand where you are coming from and that’s why I offered the insight that I did. Hey, you need to appreciate living in the present moment and appreciate the joy you have currently rather than aim for more. Once you really understand what I wrote, all your problems and fears associated with future and anxiety will be solved. Try and read the post again in a few weeks.

The major problem with most of us is that we forget to enjoy the current moment and start planning for our future even when everything is awesome and complete in the present moment. Who has seen the future ? Who knows that you will be around tomo to have the kid (you will be, of course) ? Anxiety often arises when we are trying to control a situation which is outside of our control or when we are aiming for something more than we are capable of chewing. Do you get the drift ? Let nature take its own course.

Continue with the meditation. Everything will become easy and clear with time.

Loads of positive energy coming your way. Give a big cuddle to your beautiful daughters. They are pretty special bunch of kids, yeah !

J

Hi Steve

Good luck mate. I know one thing – whatever happens will be for your highest good 🙂 There is always something bigger or better waiting for us when things that we desperately want do not work out for whatever reasons. We just don’t get taught this.

But you are on the right path and you will get all the help you need.

Smillllllessssss

J

Hi Kadi

I am so glad you have such a balanced and evolved friend. I agree 100 % with the advice that your friend has offered you.

Hey, we cant live someone else’s life or influence them to live a life that they do not wish to live. We are just not wired that way. We all have choices and desires and we all fulfill them depending on how impt they are to us. But we do fulfill them in some way. If we dont, we start to develop all sorts of mental, emotional or physical issues. And who wants to be sick ?

So the simple answer to your question is: You be YOU and let him be HIM. Let him know that he has the freedom to do whatever he needs to do to be a happy bloke. Trust me, this will help to bring another level of security into your LD relationship. Try to enjoy your time engaging in activities that make you happy and pls stay away from insecurities and “what if” scenarios. When we think too much about something, we give birth to the situation in real life sooner or later and wah lah, then it is too late for regrets….and we give it a name of “see I told you”, “my gut has been telling me this all along” etc.

Enjoy hanging out with your lovely friend and BF – you are blessed 🙂

Blessings,

J

Hey Hey Mike. Hang in there. You will be fine. Life is unfolding beautifully for you. Just close your eyes, take few deep breaths in and ask your higher self to give you the answer that is good for you and your well being…..and trust me, your problem will be solved. Sending you loads of positive energy.

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Hey Cyd

Check this page out as it has some awesome advice from another TB member on how he has turned his life around. You can offer him thanks if this helps you.

How can I help him?

Cheers

J