Hi Rachel

Thanks Lilbuddha and Matt for your posts. You guys are so amazing :))))))))))))). Matt, is lilbuddha your duplicate ?

Rachel, I have had very similar experiences as yourself and couple of years ago, I hit rock bottom in terms of, “Enough is enough”. This is when I started on a journey of Self-love and self-care. Basically, what lilbuddha said is correct. Judgement stems from an underlying lack of self-love or appreciation. We are hard on ourselves and it flows on to others. The roots of this can often be found in the childhood.

I used the following tools to assist me in the process of self-loving (although I am still a work in progress like most 🙂 ):
– Creating an exceptional life by louise hay and Cheryl Davidson is a good start – it has a lot of positive affirmations and good stuff to start us on the journey of self-love
– Meditation and Yoga
– Gratitude Journal and practicing “letting go of resentment” every day
– Writing down your feelings about what is working in life and what is not. Things which are not working are usually out of our control. Once you accept this, it will be easier to accept yourself
– Smile, Smile and more Smiles
– Doing only things that you are happy to do – first step to accepting yourself. Your mind / heart, thoughts and actions need to be aligned. For example – you offer to sort out other person’s mess but in your heart you are cursing the person – this creates a conflict at an Universal energy level. Like attracts like. So the more you are misaligned in your thoughts and actions, the more you attract of the same.
– Everyone is imperfect including myself – helped a lot in accepting myself
– My daily mantra: I accept myself the way I am, I forgive myself for all the intentional and unintentional pain I have caused myself and I love myself unconditionally.

Best wishes,

J

Hi Alexy

Congrats on the graduation.

You can create an exceptional life by Louise Hay and Cheryl Richardson will provide an awesome read for you while you travel.

I think your heart is telling you clearly that you wish to travel. You should listen to that and go. If you are meant to work in that workplace that you like, the job will wait for you :). If you are not meant to work in that workplace, no circumstance will help you get the job. Everything happens perfectly and for a reason. Go all out with happy and positive thoughts and Universe will support you in every decision.

Do fill us in with your travel stories once you are done with your gala time. Travel will provide a unique opportunity to see life from a different perspective – glass is half full rather than half empty.

Lots of best wishes,

J

Hi Khushi

It is normal to feel what you are feeling in your current situation but please do not let those feelings create a permanent home of anger, doubt, resentment, rejection and hatred in your heart. Our thoughts and emotions are like a powerful magnet – like attracts like as per Universe’s law (ie, positivity attracts positivity and vice versa).

Once you have calmed down and able to asses your situation with clarity, please count your blessings. There are always 2 ways of looking at any situation – positively or negatively. In my experience, You can always find a hidden gem of positivity in most situations when emotions are not running high.

I feel that you may find some answers to your questions in the lectures by BK Shivani. She is a renowned Indian Spiritual figure, who provides heartwarming solutions to all life’s dilemmas. You can check her videos out on youtube under BK Shivani. She has done a few lectures on child parent relationship as well and provides useful insights on how to move from a state of helplessness to a state of compassion for all. You will love her.

May your love grow exponentially for all,

Cheers

J

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Hi Sveena

It is normal to feel what you are feeling in your current situation but please do not let those feelings create a permanent home of anger, doubt, resentment, rejection and hatred in your heart. Our thoughts and emotions are like a powerful magnet – like attracts like as per Universe’s law (ie, positivity attracts positivity and vice versa).

Once you have calmed down and able to asses your situation with clarity, please count your blessings. There are always 2 ways of looking at any situation – positively or negatively. In my experience, You can always find a hidden gem of positivity in most situations when emotions are not running high.

In your case, you need to sit down and ask yourself an important question – what sort of life partner do you foresee yourself with (someone who is strong with authentic values and able to stand up for his happiness or someone who bows down to pressure from the society). Once you are able to clearly visualise your needs, you will not feel so hurt or negative and you will also be able to clearly articulate your needs to your partner.

May you find the strength to move beyond your current doubts and visualise a life shining with light, unconditional love and acceptance.

Cheers

J

Hi Dan
Love and marriage are a two-way street. If one person is compromising more than the other party, the relationship often becomes a binding. Listen to your heart and do what feels right to you. It is your well being first and then your family. If you are not happy within yourself, it will become difficult to share a genuine happiness with anyone be it your wife of 4 years or your adult kids.
May you find the strength to love yourself unconditionally, accept yourself as who you are and spread the same love and acceptance to others. Life is meant to be easy and a joyous journey most of the time. You are 64 and you deserve all the peace and bliss.
Cheers
J

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