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  • #289377
    RJG
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    Dear All- Thanks much for all the responses. Much needed one. Although my rational mind understands that all of this was just a façade, I am still not able to get out of it and concentrate. I have this crippling feeling all through the day. I am struggling to get up from bed and run errands. And this is mainly because of my longing for closure. I have never really got a closure in any of my previous relationships and that is the primary reason for me being where I am. I want to make sure its dead before I could bury it. I have so many questions & got answers to none. Can you please help me know what do I do? Its getting really hard for me to move on or even do regular activities. I have been into depression for a good number of years and I have absolutely no idea what to do at this point in time.

    #60524
    RJG
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    Hi Chungta,

    With no details of what your decision is, i would just say that as long as any of ur decision does not HARM anyone, u should go ahead & do tat…yes, it might hurt the people involved…but you need to sit back & religiously analyse the depth of hurt…will the hurt harm them physically/emotionally/mentally? or things would ease pretty well with time?….many a times we cum across such situations when our decisions dont please peole…when everyone who matters to us are resentful abt our decisions…but it doesn nt mean tat our decisions wud b wrong all the time…here’s wen u need a little analysis…without being biased abt wanting to go ahead wit ur decision…sit back & think over it as a third person…as a spectator…n then decide…if u were not in the position u r & if u see sum1 in ur position, will u still take the decision u have been wanting to? I am sure u wud get ur answer…but yea…in the course of dng so, u will have to accept wat ever cums ur way…

    Loads of wishes…m sure u will take a wise decision…which wud keep u & all the ones involved happy @ the end of the day…

    πŸ™‚

    #60390
    RJG
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    Zita…m going through the same thing…i am trying all possible ways to shift my focus…but everytime i do tat, his thoughts occupy me more than ever before…i know we will all heal with time…but yes, the process wud be no easy…i can’t take ur pain but i certainly understand it…i wonder y relationships are so complicating…i wonder y 2 people cant just throw away all ego & hard feelings & just get together for a beautiful life…i wonder y they do not understan that its just one life we get & its too short for hatred & pain…

    I truly wish u heal soon…i know u will…u r a strong soul…be sad…& cry as long as u wan to…eventually, u will be fine…we will be fine…

    #hugs#

    #60389
    RJG
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    Thank you Susan… πŸ™‚

    #60205
    RJG
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    Loli…Thank u so much for spending time to read through it…ur words are comforting…

    Denise…certain things u had jus written there are just thought provoking!!! i definitely take them…

    Nakshatra…thank u so much:-) i have taken up few things tat i have been longing to do from long…Dance & swimming to start with…would help me shred few extra pounds as well πŸ˜‰

    Wow…i never thought tis wud be so comforting…may b bcos i am a very private person & dnt share my personal stuff with anyone…which kind of puts that extra toll on me…thank u all…here’s a virtual hug to all 3 of u…#hugs#…i m badly in need of one too…. πŸ™‚

    • This reply was modified 9 years, 5 months ago by RJG.
    #60021
    RJG
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    You r a strong soul Susan…i know wat u have been through is not easy…I have gone through sumthing similar n i wanted to say so many things…i tried hard & harder to bring things back to normal…but relationships never work single handedly…i read ur post over & over again & every time i read it the pain in my heart is still the same…i wish u get the best of things in life…u deserve to be happy…ul heal & the healing wil jus b perfect
    —loads of luv….!!!

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