Coach Vernida,

That is a much more positive outlook. I always felt like I wasn’t fully myself either, I was always latching on to someone because I thought it was better than being on my own. But I am learning to be my own person and it is quite liberating

Hi Anita,

Thanks for taking the time to respond. Yes, that’s all correct. I have been going to a therapy group with other women who experienced domestic violence since the time I started individual therapy. It really helped to have other people who had been through what I’d been through, who could understand. I was unable to attend the past couple of weeks but am going back tonight. It’s hard to go sometimes but I know I felt like I had a place there and could talk about everything that has been going on.

Hi Mark,

I’m 19. Yes it’s the same ex. I don’t think I really processed the break up when it happened he was arrested and I assumed I shouldn’t miss him because he was abusive and I didn’t until I realized my friends were not very supportive and I felt lonely. My therapist tells me that’s really common and understandable since there were good times and bad times and I can make that my safe place to talk about those thoughts because she knows my friends were not there for me and my family doesn’t understand. I have a hard time opening up even in therapy but she just advised me to see a psychologist or psychiatrist. She didn’t realize how depressed I’ve been because I just put on a mask and have just started to open up more.