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  • in reply to: Need advice asap #304505
    lindsey
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    Anita,

    Yes we do.  Here is the problem.  I like him and I’m pretty sure he likes me too.  And I feel conflicted.  Because dating coworkers of course can cause issues but I feel like that might be the course we are headed on.  He’s not backing off, because he said “maybe, maybe not.” But he is also not in a hurry and neither am I at this point.

    Lindsey

    in reply to: Need advice asap #304485
    lindsey
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    Anita,

    I’m having a rough morning.  So last night I was texting with Kiel and he mentioned that he heard that M and I were sleeping together at one time awhile ago.  At first I didn’t know what to say.  And he was really good about it and didn’t judge-said we all make mistakes, etc.  I was ok but now that I’m at work I feel really exposed and have some anxiety.  I mean I do not know the extent of the rumor but I know it stopped awhile ago according to him.

    He then said that is basically the reason he has not made a move because he hates to be talked about in the office.  I said I didn’t think he would make a move in the future either and he said “maybe, maybe not.” I feel really conflicted because the  more I get to know him the more I like him.  I mean he handled the situation well and he didn’t try anything after he heard the rumor.

    I just feel again really exposed.

    Lindsey

    in reply to: Need advice asap #304393
    lindsey
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    Anita,

    I hope you had a good weekend.  Mine was very peaceful.  I spent time with myself until Sunday and then I took the kids to lunch and to the pet store.  My ex is sending me a contract rough draft he has been working on this week and I’m going to review it.  We have not set up a meeting with a mediator yet.

    I am still talking with K.  It is going very well I enjoy our friendship very much.  Other than that things are normal which is a good thing.

    Lindsey

    in reply to: Need advice asap #303933
    lindsey
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    Anita,

    I agree.  No sex with K lol.   Sounds good.  Talk to you soon.

    Lindsey

    in reply to: Need advice asap #303815
    lindsey
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    Anita,

    Do you think it is a mistake being his friend?  I’ve never been friends with someone  I was also interested in.  I just want to make sure I’m doing the best thing for myself.

    Lindsey

    in reply to: Need advice asap #303813
    lindsey
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    Anita,

    Thank you for yesterday.  You were right.  He did eventually text.  I feel like my anxiety was not nearly as bad as it’s been in the past.   I’m going to start using that exercise I think it helps.

    in reply to: Need advice asap #303755
    lindsey
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    Anita,

    OK I will check out the book.  Yes I have hard of CBT.  I will try the exercise.

    1. My distortion is K is mad at me for my texting yesterday.  He did not respond to my text today.  what if he never texts?

    2. My correct thinking is he is not mad and he told  me so last night.  He may have read my text of a funny video but just didn’t reply-maybe he didn’t think it was that funny.  Maybe he is not in a good mood and trying to work and not talk to anyone.  He will contact me again.

    After reading the corrections I realize I had anxiety about last night sense I woke up.  I think I sent that funny video today via text because of my anxiety.  I was reaching out.  I need to work on that fact that people may take things the wrong way or there may be a disagreement but that does not mean I will lose that person or that they will just go away and I will never hear from them again.

    Lindsey

    in reply to: Need advice asap #303751
    lindsey
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    Anita,

    Thank you.  The anxiety is not that bad but yes it is tough to handle.   My brain works against me telling my illogical things that I know are not true.

    Lindsey

    in reply to: Need advice asap #303747
    lindsey
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    Anita,

    My anxiety is there, it’s like a fog I can see it from far away and is coming closer but it’s getting thinner.  I’m trying to not allow negative thoughts to enter my brain.  They come and go.  There is what I am trying to rationally stay at in my head. 1. he is not upset with me and will talk with me again.  2. He does not have to respond right away or at all to a funny video sent.  3. He’s working he’s busy.  Lots of times people are quiet b/c they have their own things going on-it’s not all about my anxiety.

    Lindsey

    in reply to: Need advice asap #303743
    lindsey
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    Hi Anita,

    I did not mention before that I had sent a joking text yesterday around 6pm that I believe K took the wrong way.  We had been texting back and forth joking around.  I responded later apologizing and he ended up texting later at 10pm saying it was fine and he had been away from his phone since he got off of work at 7pm.  I am feeling some anxiety because I feel like I overrated last night and with saying sorry.  Really I just feel like a fool.  I haven’t spoken with him yet but a sent a funny video about 45 minutes ago and haven’t heard back which also increases my anxiety.  I know I should not be worrying about this like I am but I can feel my anxiety starting and I’m just trying to stop it.

    Lindsey

    in reply to: Need advice asap #303723
    lindsey
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    Anita,

    I know, thank you.  It’s pretty downhill quick once that anxiety kicks in.  Have a good Wednesday.

    Lindsey

    in reply to: Need advice asap #303719
    lindsey
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    Anita,

    Yes I agree.  I guess I did want more but I don’t want him to know that pride wise lol.  Also, I was looking at immediate gratification versus long term/down the road.  I knew I was not ready to date anyone.  It seems that conversation benefited because he texts more now.  I’m glad we are friends.

    Lindsey

    in reply to: Need advice asap #303629
    lindsey
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    Anita,

    I’m definitely starting to get my own routine and my anxiety is low.  I’m going to hang out with an old friend this weekend that I have not seen in awhile.  She is my age and lives in a town about an hour away.  There are events this weekend in our town so I think we will have fun.

    Regarding K.  We were talking earlier and I said that I was glad we were friends and that I would never push for more because we have both had some bad luck in the past.  (He mentioned some issues with another ex girlfriend.)  He said he was glad I understood because he could not see himself in a relationship right now.

    I’m aware I’m not ready for a relationship but I feel a little annoyed when I think about how he worded it.  Almost like I was pursuing more when really I was not.  I don’t know maybe I am reading more into it.

    Lindsey

    in reply to: Need advice asap #303449
    lindsey
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    Anita,

    Very good idea.  I will work on that.  Thank you.  I was feeling down until I read your post.

    Lindsey

    in reply to: Need advice asap #303429
    lindsey
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    Anita,

    I know.  I’ve known.  I just momentarily get my hopes up and then they of course come crashing down.  And then I feel bad about myself.  Which I shouldn’t but I do anyway.

    Lindsey

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