Dear life.rocks, it sounds like you’ve done a lot of self reflection about your situation. Self reflection is very resourceful since it can help you make positive changes as you move forward. I think people tend to seek love from others because they don’t realize that love is first found within. If you seek love from someone else without loving yourself first and knowing your worth, you will attract someone who doesn’t treat you with love and respect. Love really does start within. Self love is the only way to a high quality love life. The quality of men and love relationships we’ve experienced is a direct result of the degree of love we have for ourselves.
Dear Beth, in addition to the great suggestions from the other participants, being present and vulnerable lead to more meaningful and satisfying conversations with others. Connection happens in the present, and when we release our mind from thinking about the past or future, we’re able to connect on a deeper level. Being vulnerable shows our humanity and makes others feel more comfortable opening up. I’ve found that when I’ve been present and genuinely vulnerable, I’ve had some very meaningful conversations.