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MacyParticipantNone,
In the future if someone asks you a question you find invading, your gut will trigger it,..take a second to just be as vague as you can…so you answer a question but not really answer it. For example if that woman asked if your in a relationship and you didn’t want to answer her with what she wanted..I’d say kinda sorta..or the best response that answers everything …that information is not up for discussion sorry.
This exact thing happened to me this weekend where someone asked a personal question..where it was none of their business and I gave a yes no answer ..I figured lady get some respect on what you can ask a person..
A lot of people think they can ask a question..and they deserve an answer even when it’s invading someone’s privacy…so learn to say that information is not up for discussion ..it shuts them down..and makes one think what they asked is none of their business…and it really isn’t a rude way to say mind your own business.
As far as your sister goes…it seems like you have feelings. .she doesn’t. ..to keep a good relationship…only tell her what she needs to know..sooner or later she will miss you and cone around..than you can have a conversation to say..some ways you communicate to me really hurt and if you can’t be open minded and be there for me..than I will only tell you what you need to hear.
Macy
MacyParticipantMyles
I think just be a fan to whatever it is that makes you feel good. Do not get upset when other fans who like another artist attacks your fan group. ..as my grandmother would say…it is what it is and let it be. You can’t change others view points, you can only change yours. Life is too short to fret and get upset….it is what it is…so enjoy the day.
Macy
MacyParticipantChristina
I will also add…no updates on social media..no update photos of what you are doing…cause he may not see you, but he will know what you are up to…you want him to not know anything what’s happening with you…than the curious mind starts. Than once he contacts you..expect a month…30 days is generally the NC period people need to figure things out.
Macy
MacyParticipantChristina
When dealing with an ex..it’s sometimes playing with fire. They are an ex for a reason. So when you hook up with them don’t expect an immediate “we are back together” status. Right now it becomes more like a friend’s with benefits status..if your fine with that..don’t expect any more…especially when he also want you to chase him. “If” you want him, I’d suggest not being available..doesn’t mean you have to be a bitch..but you are not available. The more time you stay away..the more “he” will want you and will miss you. But if (and be prepared for if) it doesn’t happen..be prepared to move on. Knowing someone really wants you and misses you is better than to always have to chase someone.
Relationships are give and take…
Macy
MacyParticipantBeth
I think you had your niche in life since you were 13. If you enjoy writing but find it overwhelming to finish…baby steps..like this week I will sit down for 3 hours (or whatever it is) …and mark it on a calander..and the next week and so forth…so it will be a craving to do a bit each day…it’s like I got into biking at first it was hard..but I set a goal to do 2 big rides a week..after it was done..the next week I increased it..and so on…
Your passion to write….you have no idea where that will take you. Start that calander today..but I wouldn’t be specific to a date in case things come up u would just write it on the Sunday knowing you have to dedicate so much time to it by next Sunday. ..so by Wednesday if you haven’t done anything..you’ll likely not give yourself an excuse cause its on paper starring you on the fridge everytime you go by. And whenever I give myself a goal…I go onto my phone into the calander on whatever day I did whatever I wanted to achieve and say good job for… with a smiley face..so when I’m at work if I’m going thru my calander it’s a self praise “good job” from me to me. Self praise does wonders to yourself.
Good luck!!!
Macy
MacyParticipantSarah
Your relationship is “normal”, based on a conversation I recently had with a councillor…she said first yes, honeymoon stage, but than as one gets comfortable, the butterflies of when you see the other person goes away, or aren’t intensified as much…that’s normal. As long as you respect each other, have a great true friendship (that’s a good base). I think you started off great by not just being attracted to him but what was inside him attracted you to him. It’s sounds like you have great openness to talk which is another good base. I personally think because the honeymoon stage is over you are reguessing and over analyzing things too much. Sounds like you have a great guy. Not one relationship out there will always have you in butterflies all the time. It sounds like there is more good to this relationship than to ever question it. My personal advice is don’t over analyze ….that’s when you make a mountain out of a mole hill…I do that sometimes.
Macy
MacyParticipantMyles
Yes people like to criticize others…people like to see fault in others…same as politics…you support a party..but people will not just support their party but criticize the other party. The same goes for music….for a lot of people who are big fans of their singer/group they will support but criticize another songwriter. Would be easier said than done to support who you like to listen to but appreciate another writer who may not be your cup of tea…but to someone else they are who they enjoy listening to. …same goes for the game of sports.
That’s why it’s easy to just switch a channel if a songwriter is on that one doesn’t care for, or switch the channel if a particular politician is on or a sports team is playing that one doesn’t care to watch.
Macy
MacyParticipantMartha
It is not love when someone abuses you. When you love someone, there is a mutual respect, a deep friendship, mutual attraction. I personally think you should leave this unhealthy relationship. By staying is saying you will accept this ongoing abuse…and that your self love and self respect is not a priority. Right now you need to put yourself first..and your happiness. People say they will change..sure for a bit than they go back to the way they were. You will find someone who loves and respects you as you would to them…than that’s a happy and healthy relationship. Put it this way, if you had a young daughter who was in a relationship like you are in right now….what would you say to her?
I think you know what the answer to this situation is…find the strength to do what’s best for you.
Macy
MacyParticipantLiz
You are an an amazing young lady…be proud of that!!! Your needs are a priority ..you only have 1 life!!
I think your time is school first, sports, girl friends than boys.
o not ever let a man tell you, you can’t wear makeup…if you cake it on, we’ll that’s not attractive, but otherwise it beautifies a woman’s features…besides it would be like saying a man is a man he doesn’t need deodorant. ..heck that would knock half of us out if we had to smell a man without deodorant.
June 29, 2017 at 2:35 pm in reply to: I chose my bf over my best friend, now she's very upset #155640MacyParticipantKaylon,
I just about bust out laughing that she wanted to ask for .50…and assumed you pay for a drink and you bought her a gift for $100…and you picked up the tip ..okay I take back everything I said previously, I’m glad you did hang out with your boyfriend…you had made the right choice.
MacyParticipantI am grateful for today, and knowing I have a chance of yet a greater day tomorrow.
We only get 1 life…make the most of it.
June 26, 2017 at 9:16 pm in reply to: I chose my bf over my best friend, now she's very upset #155202MacyParticipantKaylon
At the end of the day, it’s your life and your decision. If you think the decision you made was the right one, than that’s all that matters. I just see a lot of people putting the boyfriends on a pedestal and ignoring their friends…than “if”it doesn’t work, they go back to the friends, and it’s kind of hurtful to some friends as if they are the back up plan. I was in no way knocking you I was only trying to give you some polite advice…if it came across that way, sorry for it. I hope your relationship with your boyfriend works, and the waters calm between you and your friend. Since you feel you made the right choice, than explain that to your friend and maybe suggest how she should stand up to her family about her coming out of the closet about her sexuality, but let her know you support her, maybe not in a way you will always be there physically but emotionally . Maybe she finds strength in you, that she doesn’t in others and was leaning on you for support..maybe she doesn’t have the strong self esteem you have.
Your thoughts?
MacyParticipantT idea Janamori
I first would like to say that you have received some real good advice from Anita and Eliana.
The smartest thing you can ever do is to listen to your gut feeling on something…your gut will never steer you wrong.
If a man ever wants to really see a woman, he will do whatever it takes to be with her…and not by taking your money, regardless if he would pay you back.
You said you wanted to make him happy…I don’t think it’s your responsibility to make anyone happy..it’s up to each individual to make their own happiness…however, once your in a good relationship…than its kind to do for the other as they would do for you.
When he blamed you and said it’s all your fault..I don’t like to hear a guy putting full blame on you..that is not right or fair.
Best wishes
June 25, 2017 at 7:38 pm in reply to: I chose my bf over my best friend, now she's very upset #154982MacyParticipantKaylon,
These are my thoughts only….first I’m assuming you are of a younger age..I always think friends first…boys are secondary. If she is one of your *best friends*, than I think you should honour that friendship….I realize your bf is from out of town, but you could of postponed your visit..or had told him you have priorities and you have to honour them. As far as coming out and telling people who her sexual beliefs are, I think she wanted you there as support. Graduation parties are rare..it’s a time to celebrate and congratulate of one’s accomplishments. I would suggest an apology letter because you weren’t there as support when your bf needed you. I’m not saying your in the wrong…but most young females will abandon friends over guys.
MacyParticipantAwww Eliana that was very sweet of you to say. Thank you!!! All breakups are tough regardless who initiates it. One day….I hope I meet a real nice guy….until then, I just have to keep myself busy with exercise and knowing I’m better than how I was treated.
Thank you for taking the time to respond.
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