Dear loniefaye,

I also suffer from anxiety and I can understand the toll it takes on our lives. ı am very sorry you are going through this tough time but please stay strong and try to use this time to spend more time with yourself and heal yourself as calling him will most probably push him farther and make u feel worse. No matter how much we are close to people some roads are meant to be walked alone in life and I hope you find some solace in spending time with your kids. anxiety is hard which means you have to do an extra work to keep yourself from spiraling down. It may mean you need more quite time more relaxing exercises and healthier choices more than the average person. I can assure you that there is nothing wrong with you sometimes people grow apart it is not your fault. Love yourself more than ever now and soon you will be with someone who appreciates every crazy anxious fiber of your being. I will keep you in my prayers. It is a cliche but its true that sometimes things fall apart to make way for better things to come along. this pain wont last forever. İ am sending you so much love and support. If you feel alone keep updating us here will be there to cheer you on. xx

• This reply was modified 8 years, 1 month ago by Miarbil.
• This reply was modified 8 years, 1 month ago by Miarbil.
• This reply was modified 8 years, 1 month ago by Miarbil.

Dear Crazyangle03

I was in the same situation few months back before i finally decided to end it. My boyfriend and I have been dating for two years and I have done a lot to show how committed I was to the relationship. I also thought that he is insecure because he has low self esteem so I tried to show him that I valued the person he was. But fact is its not healthy to be this insecure and controlling. Your girlfriend probably needs some soul searching to find out the root cause of this behavior if its fear of abandonment or something else. And I believe you are right to step away because this would be a big problem in the long run. And another point is the only person that can change her for the better is herself not you. I have tried to make my ex see his insecurities are destroying our relationship, I stuck 2 years trying to prove my loyalty but then I realized it was never about me or my loyalty some people have this dark hole in their heart that they need to fix on their own. they have this paranoia that they developed because of some issue all in all nothing you do will ever make them feel secure because their mind is in constant paranoia. I hope she will do some reflection and heal that part of herself. I fully support your decision to step back. Its for the best. stay strong and true to yourself!

• This reply was modified 8 years, 1 month ago by Miarbil.

I wanna say thanks for all the people who contributed to this cuz it’s been so helpful as I am going thru the same situation. After dating ffor two years, half of it long distance,I was not seeing him as a future partner and all my excitement about the future was gone. i stayed eveventho I was happy because I was scared to hurt him but the stress was unbearable. The worst part is after we broke up he kept begging me and calling me and showing up at my place saying he will change anything for me he kept sending me flowers to work and he even cried on his knees. He was my best friend and I truely love the person he is. I can literally feel the amount of pain I caused him and this breaks my heart. I pray that he will be ok I pray he will find someone who can love him so much. But the guilt is really hard to deal with. I still miss him and I wonder if I made a huge mistake. But I am moving forward because deep down I know I can’t be happy in that relationship.