Hello Irene, I can’t give you advice but I can tell you that I was in a kind of similar situation. I and my ex-boyfriend were a few years apart (I was older), and in their culture, that was pretty much unacceptable (the age gap, and the fact that I was older). My then boyfriend knew that, and continued to date me (for three years), and I guess I was hoping too the family would fully accept me in the end. In the end, I realized that that was not going to happen, and had to break it up with him. When I did, he pretty much agreed that his family would never accept me as part of their family.

In my opinion, the guy you are dating likes you, knows about the situation with his parents, but is probably hopeful things will change with his parents. Not sure what culture it is, but it is likely not going to change if the decision is based on custom and tradition. Just my opinion.

I wish you well 🙂

Hi Mike, your relationship sounds like mine so I can totally relate. On and off, with a lot of highs and lows. I am still with my boyfriend and things because turned around for the better a few months ago. The reason for our fights was mainly due to my trust and insecurity issues as well (on my end, anyway). To make the story short, I started really dealing with my issues myself, and looking inside for resolution, rather than demanding him to give me security and make me happy/whole. As a result, I became a much happier and fulfilled person on my own as an individual. It then resulted into me being more happy in the relationship. I believe he is much happier as well 🙂

So, my opinion is that you should give it another try. It may or may not work out since there are no guarantees, but things won’t change for the better unless you make real changes. And the only person you can really change is you. I hope she will be willing to give it another try if you do decide to go this route.

Wish you well 🙂

What helps me deal with negative emotions is making sure I get a good night’s rest, eat healthy, exercise and meditate. Also, it is good to process negative emotions (writing them down, making plans to make changes, and/or talking to friends and/or family about your negative feelings). Unless we process them, the negative emotions will probably keep resurfacing.

Hope this helps.

I’m not sure you can be much of a support for him. You still have strong feelings for him, so “being there for him” would not be a good idea. I think depression is something that he needs to deal with on his own.

do you see yourself getting married to either one of them? what is your ex girlfriend’s status now? is she totally single and have moved on from her ex or still confused? you did not mention how you feel about your current girlfriend. so, some questions you may want to ponder on…