Hi Felix,

Have you not heard of the quote –

“I cried because I had no shoes until I met a man who had no feet”

Yes somewhere you need to come to a stage where you need to understand life, its blessings and its shortcomings.

“Acceptance of the unacceptable is the greatest source of grace in this world” ~Eckhart Tolle

I had oily skin with lots of acne throughout my childhood, teenage years. This caused me a lot of anxiety and particularly social anxiety. Because this was the time when the personality of a person gets developed and I was living with this. I developed inferiority complex because of this. I could not meet people or if I could then I would get frustrated…very frustrated. This happened a lot of times and it went on and on for several years.

One day I sat with myself and asked “How can I come out of this?”

I evaluated the options:

1.  Visit the doctor and ask how can this be cured –

He said oily skin is due to the hormones in the body and excess of these hormones cause these acne all over the face.

There are medicines to reduce this oiliness but then they are hazardous because they suppress the natural mechanism of the body to create this oil/sebum. So I did not wanted to cause more complications in my life. This was not an option.

2. So that means I could not do anything physically. Could I do anything mentally about it?

Absolutely YES.

This was the only option remaining with me and so I decided to end this frustration.

I understood that this frustration was mind-made and so it was in my hands to deal with it. How powerful?

Started reading about articles, books, videos, etc on how the mind tricks us and how NOT to believe what the mind says.

If you do this you will not only come out of your mind-made frustration about height, but it will also give you a tool on how to handle many such challenges that come in our lives.

I do not say I have no more oily skin or acne because I have come out of my teenage years. (In fact those acne has now caused permanent scarring on my face.) Nor do I say that my anxiousness about my face has permanently gone. But now I know what to do when this frustration happens. I know how the mind plays games with me by telling me all sorts of things like “You are not looking good, you look awkward, other people have a beautiful face” and lots of other mind made stories.

Try to stay with people who do not make fun of you and accept the way just like you are.

If they are not making fun of you and you are still unhappy with your height, then it is your own mind-made, isn’t it? And now you can start working on coming out of it by the advises I have given you. There are lots and lots of articles, videos on it and they are all free. Start working. Stop thinking. Work on coming out of the prison of your own mind.

I also found that whatever shortcomings one may have, people only see things like persona, your way of talking, confidence, eye contact, voice, your ability to be nice to others, your kindness, your character, and many such soft skills. So try to develop them.

Before I take your leave I suggest you to take a look at the below video.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=36m1o-tM05g