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March 7, 2014 at 2:18 pm #52486
A bad feeling like something bad is going to happen? You have to be willing to dig deeper! You have to identify the feeling by name or atleast describe it.March 7, 2014 at 1:53 pm #52484
The question is why do you start getting depressed? What in your mind, thoughts is making you depressed? Do you have feelings that maybe you are not good for them? they are not good for you? are you having anxiety about being potentially abandoned, cheated on etc ? Something has to be causing you to feel depressed, so figure out what that thing is and then go from there. But first you have to identify the underlining issue. Besided you are young, explore and find yourself. best of wishes!March 4, 2014 at 1:55 pm #52273
I am not expert in love or anything lol my marriage is caput but with experience comes wisdom. Before i can comment and dig in i will like to know how old you guys are. The one thing i know for a fact that ruined my marriage was my unrealistic expectations on my husband. We got married when we where 24 and as a woman we mature way much faster than men, I compared him to my brothers who were in their 30’s. he does not have to hang out with you all the time, he might need to hang out with his friends and turn up. well i will say more when i get more info. GLMarch 4, 2014 at 1:46 pm #52272
For me when i get intuitive about a situation, something or someone am usually right lol 🙂 But instead of speculating have a heart to heart with your loved one, figure out what it is about that guy and her relationship with him that’s making you so uncomfortable. It might be your own insecurities busting out the seams, if you have been in a past relationship where your partner was unfaithful that might be playing a role. talk about it, deal with it and move on. Best of luck!!March 4, 2014 at 1:35 pm #52271
“Sometimes in tragedy we find our life’s purpose. The eye sheds a tear to find its focus.”
“I wish I could show you, when you are lonely or in darkness, the astonishing light of your own being.”
Hafiz of Shiraz
“View your life with kindsight. Stop beating yourself up about things from your past. Instead of slapping your forehead and asking, ‘What was I thinking,’ breathe and ask yourself the kinder question, ‘What was I learning?’”
“At any given moment, you have the power to say: This is not how the story is going to end.”
Christine Mason Miller
reading these have given me an incredible strength hope and light. Hope the are as useful to u as the were to me!!!March 4, 2014 at 1:27 pm #52270
Thank you so much. after posting this yesterday it felt like a huge burden was lifted off my shoulders. The pain is not as intense as it was previously, i get thoughts that sting a little bit but i do recognize what those emotions are and i call them out and laugh. I have been singing this song all day ” i didnt know my own Strength” by whitney houston and its like a sound track to my emotional/relationship situation. I am taking it one day at a time. God bless!!March 4, 2014 at 6:14 am #52245
Reading this dialogue brings a quote to mind so i will share and hope it inspires you as much as it has inspired me.
“Life will break you. Nobody can protect you from that, and living alone won’t either, for solitude will also break you with its yearning. You have to love. You have to feel. It is the reason you are here on earth. You are here to risk your heart. You are here to be swallowed up. And when it happens that you are broken, or betrayed, or left, or hurt, or death brushes near, let yourself sit by an apple tree and listen to the apples falling all around you in heaps, wasting their sweetness. Tell yourself you tasted as many as you could.”
― Louise Erdrich, The Painted Drum LPMarch 3, 2014 at 8:06 am #52159
You can stick it out and see where things go, you might be happy for a little while and when it ends, then its over. Relationships lasts for a season or couple. eternity has gotten short and forever is not that long anymore. I would say enjoy the time that you have with him, just make sure that you are prepared when it has run it’s course.
Or you can cut your losses and run for the hills now and be done with it. But know that there is no guarantee in life.