Yes, I suppose you can grow and evolve while in a relationship. I’m not klingy. I’m leaving all summer to go on an adventure alone.

I ask these things because someone brought it to my attention that I’m never single so I started to reflect. I just don’t want to have regrets later in life if the person I’m suppose to be with moves on. Sometime I feel like I have one foot in and one foot out of my relationships. This seems to be consistent. I’m just never 100% sure.

I possibly would go back to him if I wasn’t in a loving relationship. But there’s a part of me that says NO. He said to me, ” You know, you didn’t you have to grab the first thing thrown at you.” In his eyes I am using a new relationship to fill an old void where he is getting over me alone, which makes him stronger. I believe to each there own. What’s right for one isn’t right for another. It was great to see him… thanks for your input. Maybe we can be friends… maybe not.

Moongal or anybody else reading…

Within a matter of 2 weeks I ran into my ex’s mother whom I love dearly and now today, my ex. It’s weird, I always sense that I’m going to run into him and I do. In seeing him, I was able to hug him and couldn’t stop smiling when I saw him. It was like time stopped and the air reeked of chemistry… A moment in time.

History: We broke up last June. We were on and off for a long time and dated for 7 years. Shortly after I unintentionally got into a new relationship that is healthy. I keep running into my ex and I get butterflies. My heart is still attached to him, but my mind is fighting it saying it was break up because it was broken. Why then does it keep resurfacing? I think about him often, even in my new relationship where I’m treated superbly.

Out of respect for my current boyfriend I will tell him ran into my ex. I’m just confused. Any advice on what to do would be appreciated.

Update:
I have since taught my ex 2 more times and have felt strong about conquering this mountain of seeing him. The last time I saw him I had 30 min before my next class so he stayed and we caught up. I was close with his family and was asking how they all were. I drew boundaries when he asked if I wanted to see pictures, I said no. After he caught me all up there was akward silence, then he left and there hasn’t been communication since. I have been completely honest with my current boyfriend about all of this.

Over the weekend I saw my boyfriend once and was hoping to see him more as the weekends ahead are going to be busy. (I only see him once a week as he is in a extensive training program, which I fully support.) I communicated my needs and why I was upset and he understood. Yesterday was just a sad day. Sometime I wonder if I have a chemical imbalance in my head. I woke up sad again today. 🙁 Someone asked if I was ok to so I must look a mess! I also checked my schedule to see if my ex was in my class and he’s not. Why was I checking? I feel guilty for doing it. Sometimes I hear the ex saying negative things about me and questioning if they’re really true. I know this sadness will pass but it happens at least once a week. I’m worried about myself.

Matt it is the sexual yearning that i still have for my ex. That was all are relationship was at the end. It was beyond wonderful! I shouldn’t compare my new relationship to it, but it’s not the same. I was laying in bed with my boyfriend last night thinking about my ex. He satisfied me more sexually. Oy Vey!

Thank you Jox!

I understand what you’re saying. I’m kind of giggling (sorry for the bluntness) b/c I’m thinking back to years ago having conversations with friends about an orgasm and what it feels like. I received a similar response, “oh you just know”, ha ha. Thanks.