Also what I wanted to say is that after all this started it just feels like I just want to admit that I am bi and just get done with it. And before there were times where I thought something that sure happening between me and a woman and I felt kind of weird and now it feels like I like it and I want it. And I just want that gone.

Dear Anita,

Thank you so much for your help! Sorry for being annoying and thank you again very much!

Dear Anita,

So you don’t think I’m bi or anything right?

I just read though that if I was bi or lesbian the thought of being with someone would not don’t disgust me. Personally it doesn’t, I just have never done it and I don’t know if I could at the end. I’ve had several dreams of me doing it and had no problem I woke up thinking that oh then I have no problem and the thoughts were coming back again stronger but as a girl said I don’t want to be with them I want to be them, you know what I mean… I just don’t want to be bi or anything but I don’t know why that’s happening and why every time I think of my boyfriend even though I love him and I don’t wanna lose him the thoughts come back and I feel like I’m not attracted to him anymore and to men in general just to women even though I’ve never done something? Does that mean I’m bi? Because I don’t want too…

Dear Anita,

so just like the others, you think is anxiety and overthinking not about my sexual orientation right?

On the first message I wanted to say that I feel bad and this makes me feel like I’m not attracted to him anymore and that I like women, I wrote it wrong, I’m sorry. Just like I said I just want that to go away I don’t want you to mean something and I want everything to go back to normal…Sorry for annoying you…

Dear Anita,

no I have never seen a doctor or a therapist for my ever thinking I know that it destroys me from the inside out but I don’t wanna get over it on my own I want to try at least. The problem is that sometimes I call myself from these thoughts and when I think of my boyfriend I feel bad and he makes me feel like I’m not attracted to him anymore and these thoughts come back and what does that could mean? Does that mean I am bi? I don’t want at all to ruin my relationship…

Dear Anita,

thank you for your response! I think I’ve read everything from the thread here so that’s why I contacted you because some people suffer from the same issue as I do, but you know it differs from person to person and someone will have something different from someone else. I feel relieved that people feel like I do right now and I don’t feel like a problematic person. But this whole situation just doesn’t come out of my head because every time I meet my girl friends I think of that and I think that I like them and it makes me feel very bad. It just keeps me back and every time that I think that I will be around girls my mind things that you might like them and he might feel weird and every time that I see a girl I think of that. I just don’t want that to mean that I am bi. That’s why I contacted you because I just really want this whole situation to be gone.