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  • July 27, 2014 at 2:00 am in reply to: Are there times to stay away? #61852
    Big blue
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    Hi The Ruminant,

    Yes it’s good to figure these things out (what was I thinking?).

    Yes now free to open up again. I’m more of a Bond. Lol

    Good luck to you. I like your Marion.

    Big blue

    🙂

    July 26, 2014 at 3:32 pm in reply to: Are there times to stay away? #61837
    Big blue
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    Update:
    On the third chat it was clear we are not a match. Better to have chatted than never to have chatted at all. Getting closure is good. Thanks everyone who gave their advice.

    July 23, 2014 at 6:22 pm in reply to: Does he like me? #61636
    Big blue
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    Hi PryingMiMi,

    Being a guy but with no online dating experience, and one to be passive aggressive a couple times, I’d say you have good advice above about opening up better communication.

    A good rule in all relationships is to have a dialog vs. retreating. I’ve done this very well at times and yet other times I really did not.

    You might see this as an opportunity to find out about yourself more than him.

    Big blue

    • This reply was modified 10 years, 4 months ago by Big blue.
    July 23, 2014 at 4:22 pm in reply to: Are there times to stay away? #61619
    Big blue
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    Hi Matt,

    Lol … I actually was myself and in the moment. We are really into each other. This after about a 4-month disconnect. Does ‘absence make the heart grow fonder’? I think yes now that I’m thinking clearly. She was staring at me later….

    Big blue

    July 23, 2014 at 7:31 am in reply to: Are there times to stay away? #61574
    Big blue
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    🙂

    July 23, 2014 at 5:26 am in reply to: Are there times to stay away? #61564
    Big blue
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    Hi all,

    I talked with her. Just hello how have you been you look awesome.

    Big blue

    PS: 🙂

    PPS: I know the awesome part was pushing it but it’s the truth. I am doing better….

    July 23, 2014 at 4:53 am in reply to: Feel trapped in a worsening situation #61562
    Big blue
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    Hi Laura,

    You have a tough challenge, but with this great advice and your own grit you can reach your goals.

    Have you tried this? I found great success in getting jobs in new markets by working with established recruiting / staffing companies. Find one to three in your target market and for the positions you seek, and meet with them. Once they know you, they will play match maker and coach.

    Big blue

    July 22, 2014 at 2:52 pm in reply to: Unsure of the future… #61504
    Big blue
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    Hi Danielle,

    You have described your situation in a calm, sensible way. I’ve been through close to what your guy has.

    If your glass is half empty, fill it. If your glass is half full, fill it.

    What I mean is, it does not matter whether you have what you want, or whether – within reason – things are going up or down, but that you are there in your heart. Continue doing your best. Enjoy the journey!

    Big blue

    July 21, 2014 at 4:16 pm in reply to: Are there times to stay away? #61441
    Big blue
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    Hi MD,

    Thank you good point about my thinking. It was more clear cut in the case with the large age difference, at least for me. The current case is where I am dithering. You got me thinking.

    The Ruminant you also got me thinking about who I might meet if I open up more. I know I need to be out trying dating with more than one woman – as someone advised someone else on the site a while back.

    Thanks!

    Big blue

    July 21, 2014 at 10:29 am in reply to: Are there times to stay away? #61403
    Big blue
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    Hi The Ruminant,

    Wow! Did you write my story on purpose?! You captured it exactly! I know what this is about for you. I feel better hearing your story.

    Thank you!

    Big blue

    July 20, 2014 at 7:23 pm in reply to: I just don't know what to say #61339
    Big blue
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    Hi Denise,

    Genuine interest: It’s usually good to ask questions when someone tells a story. “Really? Then what happened?” “Why did you do that?” “Do they Make a waterproof ham sandwich?” “Yes-really?”

    Travel: Another easy way to get going is to ask about vacations or other travel. “Oh you went There for the waterproof ham sandwich?!” “My aunt just went and she loved it!”

    Music: “Get out! I like Foo Fighters, too! Have you seen them in concert?” “They don’t eat sandwiches.”

    Towns: “I was born south of the Mason-Dixon Line, but grew up north of it.” “What about you?” “Oh really? Sandwich, Massachusetts?”

    School: “Yeah so they have this great culinary school.” No I’m not going to hit the underwater ham sandwich again.

    Work: “TGIF. But my job is interesting sometimes. What about yours?” “Lunch is good.”

    Food: you guessed it!

    Is this sounding like you can do it?

    Big blue

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    July 20, 2014 at 2:29 pm in reply to: Are there times to stay away? #61325
    Big blue
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    Hi Michael,

    Clearly we are all unique and worthy.

    Time is what you need now. When my wife decided to end our marraige, I was in terrible shape for a few years. It probably did not help that I waited to date until the divorce was final – 3 years – but it’s what felt right.

    As Matt pointed out, it’s been my fears that have kept me from being my normal self. We all need to work through things our own way. I find it very helpful to get and give advice here.

    Big blue

    • This reply was modified 10 years, 4 months ago by Big blue.
    July 20, 2014 at 9:57 am in reply to: Are there times to stay away? #61312
    Big blue
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    Hi Matt,

    So far so good. The reframing of perspective is settling in.

    Thanks again!

    Big blue

    July 20, 2014 at 7:59 am in reply to: Are there times to stay away? #61306
    Big blue
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    Thank you Matt.

    Exactly what I needed to hear. Sending a brother hug your way!

    Now let’s see how this bull does in the china shop. I’m dancing lightly like a butterfly on my hooves!

    🙂

    Big blue

    • This reply was modified 10 years, 4 months ago by Big blue.
    July 19, 2014 at 6:10 am in reply to: Compliments #61253
    Big blue
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    Hi Lysergic,

    Yes by all means accept the compliment graciously.

    First, you deserve it.

    Second, they deserve to be thanked.

    It’s simple, yet priceless, reciprocity.

    Savor the moment.

    (This is a test. For the next 60 seconds you will practice savoring the moment…………if this were not a test, you would be graciously thanking the person with a smile and savoring the moment. We now return to the Tiny Buddha – see I can spell it correctly – network.)

    …is there an opportunity today to pay it forward?

    Big blue

    PS: The test was a memory thing to help. 🙂

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