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Thomas168ParticipantYeah, I was a little busy. Get a physical check up. Diabetes, high blood pressure and high cholesterol. Spoke with my doctor and got meds prescribed. Taking those meds … Well, one is giving me headaches and indigestion. I am dizzy and constantly rubbing my head. Being tired all the time. Figured I should check in here to see what is going on.
My father had a stroke a couple of years before he passed away. It really messed him up. Lost of some speech and mobility. Brain fog. I just learned about Etanercept from YouTube. URL “https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_Yaaa-5NAX4”. Fascinated by how it helped so many people yet the Govt won’t .. well, you know big pharma.
I hope Alessa and Peter and Roberta are all doing well. Sorry, might have missed a few someones. I am hoping you are doing well too.
Thomas168ParticipantPeter, quote, “I’ll be away from the computer for a while”
Evil me says, when the cats away, the mice will play. Or at least have a little fun. Just joking. I am in a silly mood.
Thomas168ParticipantAnita,
Your post made me laugh at the whole situation. Sometimes we do things and it messes up. Then nothing we can do to fix it. So, all we can do is laugh. Hope you get your computer back on line soon. Haha.
Alessa,
If the post was really inappropriate then the site’s one and only moderator would have removed it. I believe she is quite artistic or has very good taste in art. Always wished I tried to be more … creative?? This is why when you said you wanted to make things for cats, it made me think you would be successful. I do not know just wishful thinking.Thomas168ParticipantHmm seems someone found my post to Alessa to be inappropriate??
Thomas168ParticipantI tried to include a YouTube link but it did not let it posts without being inspected. But, never know when that will happen.
Thomas168ParticipantYes, immigrating from one country to another is difficult. But, you first look for people who speak your language and see if they can help you get acclimated. Find out if there are programs for people new to the country. Find jobs and places to live. Grocery stores which sell the foods you are accustomed to. Good luck to you.
Thomas168ParticipantHow does one have a lack of emotions when one fears losing her?
Sorry, it doesn’t make sense to me. To me, it just seems that you isolated yourself from your feelings.
They are there. They are just behind a wall or something??
I mean you feel something for her or otherwise you wouldn’t fear losing her?Please don’t let me interrupt.
Thomas168ParticipantAlessa,
I am not saying to not buy a stud finder. Just that I have bought a few and they did not work for me. You might have better luck than me. However, I now use the magnet method because it works for me. Also, here we frame 16 inches on center. So if we can find one stud then the next one is 16 inches apart. Don’t know the framing rules in UK. Induction cooker. We had a portable one.
On brother in law’s house, we tore down his back screen porch and rebuilt an enclosed porched. I learned about the framing and rules thru You Tube and some background research. Got permits and inspections along the way. Ledger board bolted into house. Cement posts to support the corners. Built the deck floor and then the walls went up. Windows. Roof was not at the same angle. So had to do a low slope roofing. Came out nice. Toughest part was tying it to the house. Roof rafters and roof covering. Could not use shingles. Spent close to … but not my money. I just helped to make sure it followed code. And did not leak.
Oh, if you are thinking of putting shelving as a cat walk then there is going to be a temptation to put things on those shelves. Just a thought.
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Alessa,
I have found stud finders to be … not useful. have bought 3 different kinds and it did not work well. Ended up tossing them out. And the last one was not cheap. Thinking was maybe a more expensive one would work better. It didn’t. Speaking of broken things. Hob on the cooker? English between US and UK have some differences. UK uses spanner and US uses wrench, Torch and flashlight. So, what is cooker? Is that the stove or cooktop? The infinity switch on my electric stove have broken and the temp is not adjustable. It just turns hot to the hottest setting only. I have bought the replacement switch and changed it. Two of them went out. Replaced both. Then two weeks later, one broke again. Of course, the heating element also broke too. That affects the light that indicates the stove top is hot. My stove top is again acting up. I told my wife better to just get a new stove top. This time just the stove top and not one with an oven. I do most of my baking with the toaster oven.
I don’t have a work bench. I just use a small table downstairs in the basement. But, I do have a vise mounted onto the table. The table is mounted to the wall. I keep my junk on it. Extra parts for electrical, switches, wires, outlets etc. Also, parts for plumbing. Love sharkbite products but am learning to solder. Also lots of tools for working on the car.
Wishing you luck with the cooker. For finding studs, I use a strong magnet and wave it around looking for the screw that holds the plaster board against the wall. Don’t know how it is done in UK?
Thomas168ParticipantIs it this watcher or awareness that survives death? I mean the memories and character of this person may pass with the body but the awareness survives and goes on to the next incarnation?? Can I find this awareness inside of myself? Identify it? Experience it? Music has always been there. It touches another part of a person somewhere near the heart. I don’t wish to derail Peter’s thread. So, let us go back to prison house of language. Wow, that sounded funny.
Thomas168ParticipantSorry, I am just trying to let the song pass on its own. Last night was the first time the sounds in my head went quiet. I know the songs were driven by my own mind. Feelings that linger long after they are felt. Guess that is why most songs are about love. Anyway, the person watching this life is the same at 16 as at 60+. That hasn’t changed but the husk or shell has changed and renewed itself many times. So, what is it that I sit and practice quieting the mind? Sometimes the noise doesn’t want to relax and go. So, then I ask what am I? Not so much as a question to be answered rather as a way to see what am I really. That never disappeared. I am looking to rediscover it. To dwell inside the awareness of the watcher.
Ah, but life doesn’t stop. So, we trudge along and live the lives that make us who we are outside. I might turn into an grumpy old man. But, for now, got a wife and daughter to take care of. I don’t think my daughter will ever leave our house. I have got to think about setting up a trust to leave the house to her. Damn, the senior property tax discount might not apply?? Will need to talk to a lawyer. Hate that idea. Getting old and cynical.
Thomas168ParticipantOne day, a monk was on his way home came. When he came to the bank of a wide river, he stared at the great distance in front of him, he thought for hours on just how he would manage to cross such a wide barrier. As he was about to give up, he saw a someone on the other side of the river. The monk yells over to the the man on the other side. “Can you tell me how to get to the other side of this river?” The man her thinks for a moment looks left and right along the river and yells back, “You are on the other side”.
A matter of perspective? Or just a good laugh?
Alessa, have you given it any thought about the cat tower? Wood covered in cloth? Nooks to rest? Sorry, just get the feeling you could do well. But, IDK. Wishful thinking. Hope you are yours are well.
Thomas168ParticipantThe thing about Zazen for me is that it represents the actualization of enlightenment. Just sitting in the quiet. Emptiness. Not trying to do anything. Being the awareness without the mind prompting this is me being aware. No creeping vines from the mind into the peace. Yeah,m can’t be building anything as that is the mind doing the building. The meditation is a way for the mind to drop away. For the awareness to stop identifying with thoughts. This becomes the actualization of enlightenment. Practice this and the more moments of peace happens then eventually mindfulness all day. It transforms the practitioner.
Unfortunately for me, my mind has built up defenses like the unending song repeating in my head. Creeping vines of me saying it is me being aware of the moment. I can see the tricks the mind plays to keep in control. But, it also lets me see the path to dropping the mind. For it is the middle way. Not to hold on strong and let it slip away like sand in a fist holding on tightly. But, also, not loosely like powder in one’s hand when the wind blows.
I know that someday I will need a teacher if I am ever to move forward with my practice. Got nothing to do with this but, The Sounds of Silence just played on the radio. Now another song stuck. Maybe it will be quiet this time.
Thomas168ParticipantYeah, being apart hurt like hell. All one every does is spend time thinking about the other person. After a few months then time spent thinking about her will diminish. Spend less time thinking about her until you stop. Then you can go on. healing. This is why sometimes I think, the brain shuts down and stops feeling anything. I hope things get better for you.
February 23, 2026 at 6:53 pm in reply to: growing up – becoming adul / procrastination – in connection to childhood trauma #455422Thomas168ParticipantIf I am out of line then please just ignore me.
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