Since I promised to stay out of James thread, I will post a comment about Anita’s post in “Real spirituality”.

Liked, Anita said, “On the other hand, many people shut down when confronted harshly. A softer tone invites curiosity instead of defensiveness. Gentle guidance often builds trust and long-term change, whereas hostility can alienate. People often respond more deeply to kindness than accusation, especially in context of personal growth. For most people, a calmer reflective tone is more likely to reach the heart, build trust, and inspire lasting transformation.”

Adalie said, “Its my fault for meeting up with him and letting something happen.”
Did it provide you with any happiness? I understand you are taking responsibility. But, it takes two to tango?
Everybody wants to find happiness. Unfortunately happiness has to be in you first. Another person can’t provide it.

Adalie said, “Kinda stupid that im hurt by being unfriended.”
When is rejection ever not hurtful? It is only natural to feel this way.

Adalie said, “There was never a relationship there just one day and no communication. I didn’t matter enough”
You matter. Just not to him. It does hurt to be used and cast away.
Never forget that you do matter. Just got to find the right person.
It is tough to know when to let the heart go because one can be hurt so easily.

I hope you have better days ahead of you. Friends do help??
I know there is nothing I can say to get you out of this funk, hurting.

Where is the like button on this forum?

Dear James,

I ask nicely to not bring Anita into this. She is a nice person and does not deserve any bitterness from you. So, please leave her out of this.

James said, “Please send who you love the most in this forum a thousand dollars.
And face with real internal demon.”
What is your point? What would that prove?

James said, “İt is not being a liar, because you guys are not even aware that you lie to yourself.
You guys haven’t meet with the devil/you yet. And i am offering to you to meet.”
So we aren’t liars now. We are the devil?? And you offer to meet?
Sounds like you think you know something more than the rest of the world does.

James said, “When death comes, your these squeamish personalities will burn till not even ashes left from you. Surrender before too late.”
So now you want to talk to us about our death and how much horror there will be??

James said, “And believe me, I love you more then anyone loves you. Because, love is not about saying nice words or making feel better, but warning, helping and leading to see devil/mind/you activity.
Peace.
Peace.”
So how do you claim this love? By describing my death and how my squeamish personality will burn??
Then claim Peace??

I got to say that your post makes me feel conflicted. You say you love me then you talk about my death.
So love is not about making one feel better? Sorry, that must be my mistake. Making my loved ones feel better.
So to show my love for you should I just be warning you, helping you see the devil/mind/you activity?
Somehow I think it would make me look crazy like the man in the desert looking for an oasis.
Maybe it is there and maybe it is a mirage??

I say this from the bottom of my heart. I care about you, James.
I have no ill will toward you. And I hope someday that you will bring your mind forward to complete the circle.
You may have found the OX but bringing it home is a different story.

Peace.

Wisdom is not about just saying the truth. Wisdom is about handling a situation with compassion.
So a kind word here or there isn’t about compounding a person’s suffering.
It is about reaching the spirit of the person and bringing them love.
To let them know that they are not alone. That there is someone who wants to help.
Strength is not what you do when you have the power to hurt someone.
It is about choosing to use that strength to help them instead.

But what do I know, after all, according to James, I am just a person who can’t handle the truth, life wise and spiritual wise.
Wow, how is that for wisdom and compassion??

Dear James,

So, love is whatever happens still being with that person and support no matter what?
If that person is abusive then love is still being with that person? No matter what?
Ridiculous. It matters … what.

Love is when two people are caring and work together to maintain a relationship.

Your advice is to split/break up.
You know exactly what her situation is?
Rather than having compassion and lending a ear.
To listen and give an encouraging word.
You give advice of which you have no idea what that would do??

Where is your compassion? What wisdom do you hold?
No matter if you speak the truth.
It doesn’t give you the right to hurt others with blunt words.

Hey Roberta,

I hope you find what you need at the time when you need it. Good luck.