Tiny Wisdom: On Simple Confidence

“Confidence is preparation. Everything else is beyond your control.” -Richard Kline

People often think confidence means knowing you can create the outcome you desire. To some extent it does, but this idea isn’t universally true for anyone. No matter how talented, smart, or capable you are, you cannot predict or control everything that happens in your life.

Even confident people lose jobs, relationships, and even their health.

Confidence comes from knowing your competence but acknowledging it’s not solely responsible for creating your world. When you take that weight off your shoulders and realize that sometimes the twists and turns have nothing to do with what you did or should have done, it’s easier to feel confident in what you bring to the table.

Today if you feel insecure about something you’re working toward, pull your focus away from the outcome and back to your output. Focus on what you have to offer and how well you can use it. Do your homework, do the legwork, and then know you’re doing everything you possibly can.

There’s a lot we can’t control in life, but we can know we’re doing our best with the things that are within our control.

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About Lori Deschene

Lori Deschene is the founder of Tiny Buddha and Recreate Your Life Story, an online course that helps you let go of the past and live a life you love. Her latest bookTiny Buddha's Gratitude Journal, which includes 15 coloring pages, is now available for purchase. For daily wisdom, follow Tiny Buddha on Twitter, Facebook & Instagram..

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  • Excellent! I think this also relates to getting comfortable with the concept of impermanence. When we can start to accept that nothing is really as solid and fixed as we think…our appearance, sense of self, job, thoughts, body, etc. we can better accept and adapt to change with greater peace and equanimity.

  • Postankush

    when we know everything is impermanent we try to do our best in all situations. But old habits die hard many times I find myself instead of knowing truth I am not able to give my best. I am not able to make full use of situations to deliver best in professional and family life. How to deal with it?