@Dannydan you didn’t tag me! Please do as I rarely check TinyBuddha now. Would hate to leave anyone hanging.

My ideas copyrighted I haven’t granted rights yet there may be a fee involved lol . Have you seen episodes of how clean is your house? You keep mentioning it’s a project with a big profit so I automatically imagined a hoarders house full of dust and skin shedding which equals 🤢😷🤮🤧 but when transformed is amazing!

How can you not know what Pinterest is, do you live under a rock? It’s a virtual moodboard where you get pictures for inspiration and ideas for homes, weddings etc. Don”t you dare say that’s a womanly thing!

Experience definitely does shape us. I think @Rhaenys @Jay2023 would all concur. I was discussing this with my bestie the other day too and it was such an interesting conversation. She mentioned how she’s glad I entered something with her brother now that I had a better idea of my needs and identity. She’s known me for years so has witnessed my relationship patterns, heartbreak and growth so that felt good she approved of us being together. You’re not wrong though Danny….sister’s before misters! It stuff we dream of as little girls lol

We spoke of our first love always having a piece of our hearts but agreed it rarely ever works out.

It’s curiosity because your experiencing new feelings for the the first time. You think you’re in love but don’t really know what love is. It’s a time we are fearless, everything feels magical but we soon realise the magic is an illusion.

It’s like jumping off a cliff with a parachute midway we don’t know how to open it , so hope for the best in the moment but most of us will crash hard. You’re changed by that very experience, when the honeymoon phase wears off you don’t know how to navigate it.

This change as a person as a result of the experience causes us to grow, we start to discover now who we are and what we actually want and unless the growth occurs simultaneously with your partner (very rare) it often is what drives a wedge between you because eventually most people realise that they had been compromising way too much just for the sole reason that they got used to the person.

Majority split up at this point. But those who don’t exit is usually because they realise it would be a massive task to end and start all over again. But resentment kicks in and then you’re in an unhappy place until you do leave.

Our subsequent relationship if we become self aware and undertake real growth in discovering our patterns and needs, we can choose wisely. So these relationships are likely to now succeed.

However most subsequent relationships fail if we rush in out of desperation or fomo. So out of desperation to be in a relationship, invent love. A lot of times we are in love with the concept of being in love without realising it.

It’s cathartic to release it all and have a good cry. Don’t stress about the betrayal of your ex anymore Danny. Make peace with it, don’t shame yourself for not knowing better then the type of person you fell for,  look at your growth as a result, you’ve become self aware. You decided to change for yourself first. You’ve learned to not appease and lose yourself but can also compromise for your partner. You have learned to harness your emotions better. So much positive. I’m the same. I loved the numpty, I would have married him but I would have been miserable too. We have had a lucky escape!

Attending all your sessions is a must so don’t waste your money by not adhering to the tasks!

@Jay2023 are you okay? I recall it was your exes birthday towards end of May. Have you kept moving or has this bothered you at all? Do drop us a post to let us know how you are.