Hi anita

I need to form the intent to love myself. I guess what happens is every once in a while I read or hear someone say “the good ones will be gone” in terms of men, and it triggers this spiral.

You are right, I’ve never had a boyfriend, but just being told on several occasions that I am not good looking has put my hopes down. I am bringing them back up now.

This time, the expectations are mine so I don’t feel the way I did many years ago.

I am so scared. I am about to throw my life into a washing machine. So scared! I am oscillating between fear of failure and delusion of how amazing it will be when I meet my guy. I need to balance this out. I mainly plan on having fun by myself and dating in between instead of solely focusing on the latter so as to not pin my happiness on just finding a guy. I need to be realistic and enjoy my life at that moment.

I know Yoda is from Star Wars but haven’t watched it.

Girija