Dear Anita:

How’s your morning going?

 “If you had a child, a little boy, who trusts you and looks up to you (Addy) for love and protection, would you let your father (your boy’s grandfather) criticize your son like he criticized you, day after day (or once in a while), for as long as your father does it without the intention to hurt your boy, and for as long as he also has a soft spot for your child (between the criticisms)?”

No obviously not. Because I am aware of it and thing is that back in the days, I had this kind of thing like, I thought that he is doing this just to like to teach me like how to do like things “perfectly” I am not sure… Because that’s how he was raised Like you should be doing things “perfectly”

if you had a child, and you cared about your innocent child not being harmed (more than you cared about your father’s feelings), you would be different from your father, a different kind of father, and in a good way, wouldn’t you?

Yes obviously I would be different. I want to break this pattern and start the healthier pattern because I’m aware of it and I’ll try my best for that

because naturally, when people and other animals feel anger, they have the intention to hurt the object of their anger. The intention to hurt is inherent in anger.

Hmm Yes right I’m starting to accept different people with it’s different kind of abilities and inabilities