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  • November 6, 2024 at 8:11 pm #439182
    anita
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    Me: earlier this very day (this Wed), way before your recent post of 16 minutes ago, I thought about asking how you’re doing, and this very evening I get your message, which I can’t read in a focused way because, well (intoxicated). I will be back to you Thurs morning.

    anita

    November 7, 2024 at 8:56 am #439188
    anita
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    Dear me:

    This is a difficult time for you and for your father. I hope that he is made to feel as comfortable as possible by the medical team that is treating him. I know that your relationship with him wasn’t easy, and this is a painful and challenging time for you. It’s okay to feel whatever it is that you are feeling. Grief can be really complicated. If you need to talk more, to express yourself, please do, anytime.

    I am thinking of you and hoping that you find some peace and comfort. You are a good, worthy person who cares for and  helps other people. You deserve peace of mind at this time, and at any other time.

    anita

    November 7, 2024 at 9:33 am #439191
    me
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    I can’t completly fall apart when he moves on, but for a little while I probably will. He wants me to move on past this he told me and live my life. So I must live it by getting into extremly good shape, make as much money as I can and experience life. They cancelled chemo because his cancer is beyond treatment.

    November 7, 2024 at 10:00 am #439193
    anita
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    Dear me:

    “They cancelled chemo because his cancer is beyond treatment“- so, palliative care is what’s left: providing the patient with relief from symptoms/ making the patient feel more comfortable, and helping family members deal with the situation through counseling, respite care and more.

    It’ll be okay, for you to fall apart for a while.

    Like your father, I also would like you to move on with your life. You deserve a better life, a good life.

    anita

    November 8, 2024 at 10:04 am #439220
    Roberta
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    Dear Me

    I am sorry that your father has terminal cancer ( I looked after my mother at home up to a few weeks before her passing from cancer) my relationship with her had been rocky in the past,  I managed to put aside our past hurts.  I was with her when she passed peacefully.

    My comment on this is not meant to be a critisim So I must live it by getting into extremly good shape, make as much money as I can and experience life.  Any statement using words like extremely can cause oneself a problem ie. if you dont meet the high standard of extremely fit how are you going to feel about yourself? Money does not necessarily equate to happiness ( how many rich & famous people have committed suicide or drank & drugged themselves to death). Would you be willing to compromise your health, friends and or ethics to get rich? What kinds life experiences are you looking for?

    I pray that your father has a peaceful & pain free passing and that you go on to have a happy & fulfilling life.

    Kind regards

    Roberta

     

    November 14, 2024 at 6:45 pm #439407
    anita
    Participant

    How are you, me?

    anita

    November 27, 2024 at 11:06 pm #439733
    me
    Participant

    Anita – He’s still in hospital right now. I’ll move on eventually, I pretty much have no choice. I got many plans I wanna conqueror. Dad is starting to eat more finally, so there is that.

     

    Roberta – I just mean I wanna make money and get fit. I don’t need to be rich but as a poor man having no money kinda sucks. If I had money I could easily take better care of my dad and people in my life better. Sorry about your mother.

    Anita – I’m fine. There was this woman that says she wants me but 99% of the time I call her on her request she ignores it and never calls me back and has some BS excuse ready when we see eachother. Wasting my time…oh well, I just wanted to hit it and quit it anyway.

    November 28, 2024 at 8:12 am #439744
    anita
    Participant

    Dear me:

    Thanks for sharing an update. I can imagine how tough it must be for you right now, but I’m glad to read that your dad is starting to eat more. Every bit of progress counts.

    It’s great that you’re looking ahead and setting goals for yourself, like getting fit and improving your financial situation. Those are positive steps that can help you feel more in control during this difficult time.

    Money can definitely make a big difference in how we handle life’s challenges, and it’s clear you want to take better care of your dad and those around you. Just remember, it’s okay to take care of yourself too. Your well-being is crucial for you to be able to support others.

    About the woman you mentioned, that sounds really frustrating. It’s hard when someone sends mixed signals and doesn’t respect your time. It’s good that you recognize the situation for what it is and aren’t letting it drag you down.

    You’ve got a lot on your plate, but your determination to move forward and achieve your goals is inspiring. Keep pushing towards your dreams, and don’t hesitate to lean on people you can lean on.

    Take care of yourself, and keep going strong.

    anita

    December 7, 2024 at 7:31 pm #440004
    anita
    Participant

    How are you me, and how is your father?

    anita

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