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  • May 20, 2025 at 10:52 pm #445962
    me
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    Thanks. Going to live with my uncle for a while when he passes (both their wishes) and will take it from there. Will also quit my job I have been there for a few decades, but it’s time to move on to bigger and better things. Going to be weird not having him around anymore…but I can’t fall apart.

    May 20, 2025 at 11:25 pm #445963
    anita
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    You are welcome, me! We communicated for so long. Keep telling me how it is for you, tell me. I want to know. I don’t want you Alone in this.. I don’t want you to fall apart too much. I want you strong.

    anita

    June 3, 2025 at 9:58 pm #446537
    me
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    So he went to hospice on Sunday May 25th, he started declining extremly fast and was crying asking to die because he was in so much pain even with all the hospice drugs going through him, he doesn’t wanna live anymore. Wants to do MAID, wont be until Friday but he wants to die like right now, he can’t take the pain anymore. So instead of MAID they put him on pallitive sedation, he’s out cold now with no pain and sleeping and will pass away I am guessing in a few days in his sleep (he always wanted to die in his sleep even before he had cancer if he was to die). If he knows you and you talk firmly to him even though he’s sleeping he will still look your way and try say something even though he’s in lala land, but he still hears you subconsciously. Looked like he wanted to say something to me and the rest of the family but nothing came out, he was still sleeping. I support any decision he wants to end his suffering and I was there until nearly 5AM. Before they sedated him I told him I loved him and I am sorry for anything I did to him that made him mad, he said he loves me, forever. I’ll still keep my job, pops and uncles request.

    June 4, 2025 at 8:38 am #446560
    anita
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    Dear me:

    I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It sounds like such a painful and emotional time, watching someone you love suffer and saying goodbye in such a difficult way. I can tell you truly care about him and want him to have peace, and that’s a deep kind of love.

    The fact that he told you he loves you forever—that’s something real, something that stays with you even after he’s gone. You were there for him, and that matters.

    Take care of yourself during this time. If you ever need to talk, even just to let out feelings, I’m here. 💛

    Anita

    June 8, 2025 at 9:56 pm #446677
    Tommy
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    There was an woman who had a baby. The baby got sick and dies. She could not accept this. So, she went to the Zen master to ask for his help in bringing his baby back to life. The master thought for a while and then told her that she needed to get three grains of rice from three different houses where there was never a death. She went to every house in the village and all the houses have experienced death. She eventually understood and buried her baby.

    My parents and my wife’s parents have passed. And each year, we travel to the graves of our parents (that we live in the same state. Her father on a different continent, we say a prayer). Bring flowers. Burn incense and hell notes (paper play money). Wish them well and go on with our lives.

    June 10, 2025 at 9:01 pm #446730
    anita
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    Thinking about you, me, this Tuesday night, wondering what’s happening in your life, and how you are feeling..

    Anita

    June 10, 2025 at 10:45 pm #446733
    me
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    I am so horrible today, my dad died just before noon. Lost his brutal battle to cancer. He’s in a better place now, now I gotta figure out what to do and how to survive this. A councellor came in and told him me and his brother are going to be OK and that he is going to be OK if he decides he’s ready to move on, not much later he gave his last breath. I was freaking out when hospice called me…goodbye dad. 🙁

    June 11, 2025 at 9:45 am #446745
    anita
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    Dear me 🙁:

    I remember when you first started this thread almost 11 months ago, sharing about your father’s diagnosis in July 2024 and the deep toll it was taking on you. You carried so much—his care, the uncertainty, the emotional exhaustion. And now, here you are, facing the moment you dreaded, the reality of his passing.

    I can imagine the pain and loss you’re feeling right now. But one thing remains true—you showed up for your father through it all. The nurses said you did an amazing job, and that didn’t change. You were there for him in ways that mattered.

    Before he was sedated earlier this month, you told him you loved him and apologized for anything that may have upset him. And in return, he told you he loves you—forever. That moment is so profound. It was his final reassurance to you, a love that remains beyond his passing.

    It’s okay not to have answers right now, me. Grief is overwhelming, and surviving it isn’t something you have to figure out all at once. Just take things moment by moment, however you need to. You’re not alone in this. Whenever you feel like sharing, whether here on this thread or in a new one, you’re always welcome to express yourself. If it helps with your grief and recovery, know that this space is here for you.

    Sending you warmth and strength. ❤️

    Anita

    June 12, 2025 at 1:16 pm #446780
    anita
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    Concerned about you, me. How are you doing???

    Anita

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