June 2, 2014 at 10:18 pm #57975The RuminantParticipant
This has been a good conversation, because I actually got pretty turned off by Facebook 🙂 It hasn’t been hugely addictive to me lately, after I went back there, but some ugly old patterns have emerged, which I want to avoid. I’ve wanted to get away from it, but didn’t want to disappear again (which I did before). Now I removed it from my tablet and phone. I can still access it, I just don’t want to, and now there are no icons to tap out of habit.
It feels good to notice when something is starting to go wrong and actually stop and make the decision to not continue moving to that direction. There are so many things I want to do and being distracted by other people’s lives or seeking validation from them aren’t going to get me to where I want to be.June 4, 2014 at 11:09 pm #58135The RuminantParticipant
Well, I have expanded my “experiment”, and I’m actively not getting involved in everything, not only on FB, but elsewhere as well. Especially if I feel like I have to point out my own unique point of view, I stop myself and ask “why?”. Why do I need to entangle myself with things that do not matter? Do I need to make everything public?
The less I share and the more I keep things to myself, the more I feel like I’m in control of my own life and I feel free and happy.
I’m not saying that not sharing thoughts is bad (I’m sharing my thoughts right now), but to be much more discerning about when and what. Being silent not only allows me not to get too entangled with thoughts (especially other people’s thoughts), but also enforces my boundaries. What other people think is their business and what I think is my business 🙂June 4, 2014 at 11:59 pm #58137@Jasmine-3Participant
Wow The Ruminant. Amazing insight 🙂 Sometimes others need to hear a different point of view to help them decipher their life’s dilemmas. If everyone started to mind their own business, how would people like us improve in life ? Agree about the boundaries, when and what :). It is basically not being a slave to our ego mind unlike what I am doing currently. Rather be here chatting to you than do my reports lol.June 5, 2014 at 4:34 am #58143DParticipant
I have been estranged from my entire family for several years. Until facebook came along, I never truly knew how racist and hateful my entire family truly is. Through facebook I also learned how my father was a bully in high school and still is a bully.
It has been a sorce of my shame and suffering. And it is visible for all the public to see. Before facebook came along things were much more private.June 6, 2014 at 5:36 pm #58277Big blueParticipant
Ahem… Um… After all that big talk…
So … for work reasons I’ve reactivated FB. I now need to review how it works sometimes.
I’m doing a ‘friend cleanse’ as I really just need to use the app. While it’s nice to see pictures, I think it’s better to remove them. I had already deleted all my content. It’s been two years of deactivation. :-/