I’ll just cut straight to the case. I usually don’t lie, I mean I rather not say anything than tell a lie. But whenever I tell even just a little lie (that harms no one) I feel horrible. I had a really difficult exam to pass and I made it. My grade was in between and I got the lower grade because I didn’t do well on the written part (which was worth more that part 2). I was embarrased to tell my friends so I lied and told them that I got one grade higher. I’ve never lied about my grades before and I never will again, but I can’t tell them the truth now. My grades aren’t even their business and I never feel comfortable telling anyone my grades (even though I get very good grades most of the time). Now I’m afarid that my grades will lower in general just because I lied about this one grade, afraid that it will be karma. This is just one case but I’m like that in general. I’m afarid that even if I tell a white lie, something bad is going to happen. How can I get over this feeling? I mean I know we all lie sometimes but I would like to stop feeling so incredibly guilty if I tell a white lie or a lie that didn’t hurt anyone..
I don’t recall who said this, but “a lie will travel half way around the world before the truth gets out of bed to put it’s pants on.” Something like that…A lie reflects on a person’s character and integrity so I join in with Anita in the challenge of simply not telling a lie. Period. You get so much more respect from people when you are honest and take ownership.
I see you have a strong sense of justice and it is wonderful to have human beings like yourself in our current society.
Do not undermine yourself, regardless of how bad you think your situation may be. The fact is this: everybody screws up. What differentiates them is how they live each day afterward knowing that they did.
Life will never be how we expect it to be. Appreciate your current self, accept your current circumstances, then let go of the past. Move on with your head held high; because self-depreciating thoughts do nothing but drag you down the stairs you thread in life.
Let me know if you want to continue the conversation.
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