Hello vidalevi,

we can all say and pretend ‘look doesn’t matter’ but many of us have been in your skin many times. I have always been struggling with my weight and also my complexion, and better looking girlfriends are just… everywhere, everywhere…lol 😀 They certainly don’t make stuff easier 🙂

Maybe it’s just a matter of perception though, but in many occasions I find myself analyzing couples… And maybe I am wrong, but I get the feeling that ‘the average looking’ ones, are happier and last longer than ‘the model looking’ ones. Maybe it’s because there is something stronger holding them together but the physical attraction (which in time fades away).

And what if you try different approach? My sister is passionate gamer for example (she is 28, not a teenager…lol), and she met her last two boyfriends in the ‘gaming’ community.. I can assure you she had much better luck than few of my other girlfriends who go out with ‘the pack’ and try to meet guys the classic way (clubs etc). There are many options today where you don’t have to be among other girls, and your true personality can shine through. I met my current partner online, we contacted via skype for a while, and we were friends for few months first. And yes, he was normal, average looking guy who doesn’t stick out from the crowd, but he won me by earning my respect first… And we are together for 8 years. If you have hobbies and interests, you are passionate about something, maybe you can use that common interest to join a group, forum.. etc…And meet new people like that 🙂 Us, girls, have to get creative sometimes 🙂

And one more thing… one of my (male) cousins once told me:

‘You girls are lucky… You are short-you put on high heels. You have bad complexion- make up does wonders… You have little extra ‘weight’- there is shape-wear, tailored clothes.. And the hair can work magic for you!! (I know… long blond, curly hair was my ‘forte’.. lol ). Us guys… we don’t have much options 🙂 ‘

He was right 🙂 I am sending you my best wishes and positive energy, and never ever feel bad about how you look.

P.S. I used to struggle with weight so much, tried every pill, diet, work out, just to look better. Now I battle anxiety, I work out 2 hours every day almost, and haven’t even remembered to check how much kilos I have lost for 3-4 months. I don’t care now, really. Just wanna be healthy and happy. Looks really doesn’t matter and it’s not a pass to love and happiness.

Hiya
I suffer from this. However the truth is, in my humble opinion looks really aren’t everything. It is all very shallow. I am female with short hair and I feel like the odd one out, however the people who like me, like me for me. As has already been said, lots come be done about appearance. Improve yourself so you feel good about yourself. Appearance is really adaptable.

Don’t go to clubs where there are only men trying to get laid. Go to places that satisfy your hobbies or interests – take classes in things you like (or think you might like), go to art galleries or lectures, etc. Do things you like and that make you happy. When you are happy, you will be at your best. Even if you don’t meet someone for a relationship, you can make friends or just learn and enjoy new things.

When you are living a life that you love, that’s when you will find a person who will like the real you. Don’t be desperate or panicky about it. Just enjoy life and then when it is right, it will work out, with the right person for you.