There’s not much detail to go on but all I can say is. There are many reasons people turn down bids for relationships..
One way to navigate it is for both people to be clear about their intentions and boundaries. If you can have a clear talk about that, maybe you have a shot. But if they don’t want to work it out. That’s their choice. And you can always make new friends .
Seems like you got a bit of self reflection to do there . Is there some accountability on something that needs to be taken that someone’s over looking ? Idk