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    Tommy
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    @Helcat, I can see you are a good hearted person. My intent was to mirror what was given to me by Brian. Those were the boundaries set by him. Not only from this post but others included. I meant what I said. What goes around comes around. It is a good thing to learn if one wants to “getting along in society, when one is not normal”.

    I have no pity for those who claim to be “not normal”. Also, no sympathy for those who cried out for help and reject anyone along the way. That I will leave that for those (psychotherapists) who are paid by the people who claim to be “not normal”. That kind of mind set does not need to be reinforced by pity or sympathy from me.

    Personally, I will speak to anyone who wants to have a conversation. I am not the one who said, “I really would rather someone not talk to me at all than say a few meaningless phrases out of obligation. I am not disrespectful to someone unless I say something disrespectful.” That was a quote from Brian. I am more than willing to hear others’ opinions as long as they are willing to have a conversation. But, conversation means a a two way communication.

    A few meaningless phrases, “Nice weather we are having?” “Good to meet you” People say it to be nice. Brian would rather be honest and not say those things. Whether one means it or not, it is the “norm” in society to be polite. It is what getting along means.

    • This reply was modified 3 months, 2 weeks ago by Tommy.
    #395092
    Helcat
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    @Tommy

    Thank you for clarifying your intent. Apologies for misinterpreting. I understand why you were holding up a mirror to Brian’s beliefs. I hope you can see that after discussion, Brian’s behaviour towards others has now softened.

    Personally, I understand why those who are in pain reject others. That pain comes from a place of distrust because people expect to be treat how they have in the past.

    From my perspective, showing someone who is distrustful that you are trustworthy can be helpful. This may lead to them giving others the opportunity to build trust and result in developing fulfilling relationships.

    • This reply was modified 3 months, 2 weeks ago by Helcat.
    • This reply was modified 3 months, 2 weeks ago by Helcat.
    #395103
    Tommy
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    @Helcat, no apologies necessary. You are a good person and try to be helpful. Many people need that kindness. Brian’s position has softened due to your (and others) efforts.

    • This reply was modified 3 months, 2 weeks ago by Tommy.
    #395201
    Helcat
    Participant

    @Tommy

    Thank you for your kindness. But I can’t claim responsibility for that. Brian made his own choices.

    #395202
    Brian
    Participant

    I still think there is a balance I can strive for. It’s possible to to be genuine and not be rude at the same time. There’s still certain people I’m not going to connect with and I’ve accepted that.

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