How to cope with the death of your pet? please help

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August 4, 2013 at 10:48 pm #39747

valentina mamberti
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How to cope with the death of your little pet? It happens last saturday afternoon in a real cruel way: the dog killed my kitten through his bench vise and I immediately act since I heard the aloud meows and take him away but when I picked him up after 2 minutes he’s goes…I run immediately to the nearest vet but he said the kitten was already gone, due the fact the dog broke his backbone. Im wasted now and I don’t know what to do, and I see him everywhere poor kitten, and now I have even to study a lot for an exam and it’s really difficult to focus on it, and even if we take care about him cause was a kind of wild one, escaped from our neighbours, I feel guilty and don’t know what to do. I know there are in the world biggest tragedy but now I just can see my kitten lay down and dying poor wee kitten, and I regret also that I didn’t take so much pics of him, neither videos. Please somebody help me it’s such a difficult moment for me. Thank to all will take time to read and reply to my case. xox

August 5, 2013 at 7:21 am #39751

clouds
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Dont blame your self. It was a terrible accident. Time will heal your mind, you will always feel the pain but in my experience it lessens over time.
I lost my girl a year ago, so I kind of know how you must feel.
Hugs… just hang in there.

August 5, 2013 at 10:48 am #39760

valentina mamberti
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Thank you very much Clouds for your reply really appreciate. Yeah it was indeed a terrible accident. But the worst part it was when I saw his eyes fade away like…I saw him literally passed away from his eyes and never experienced something like that. I could give him my leg plus my arm plus everything to keep him alive, I know maybe I sound kind of exaggerate but … And also seems to be impossible that he’s not here anymore already neither his body cos the vet send him to get incinerate…I mean I don’t even know if he does still exist his soul and if there’s one where it goes? I just want to have a message from him like, where he’s says he’s fine and he lives in a better place now. Im still astonished how a dog can put an end to his wee life, Im also so angry at this dog and Im powerless, completely powerless, I don’t really know when I will get some peace for the moment… My best friend invites me to go to seaside tomorrow for a couple of days, hope it will work as I see my kitten everywhere in the house 🙁
Thank you Clouds for your support, yeah definetely I’ll hang here, for sure.
Hugs to you too.

August 7, 2013 at 10:06 am #39917

Nicole1971
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I love animals and was very sad when I had my dog of 12 years put down because his liver failed but I know that what I did, I did out of love for my animal. I decided to get another dog and it helped a lot to ease the pain. I think you should get another kitten.

August 11, 2013 at 6:21 am #40178

Barbara
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Hi Valentina

Oh I really feel for you. Big hug to you. I can hear how sad you feel, and how you are so upset. I have a cat, and I know how you must feel – well a little bit anyway, as i havent experienced what you are going through. That was a terrible thing to happen, and you poor thing to see it and have to deal with it. But all you can do now is wish that lovely creature lots of love, and try not to keep going over it and torturing yourself. It was hard and traumatic, and you will be sad, but try to let it go bit by bit. Be nice to yourself.

Sending hugs.

August 13, 2013 at 4:43 am #40336

Sophie
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The biggest thing I’ve found in coping is to adopt another pet. It is not about replacing the animal, because you can never truly replace a living thing that you loved. But there is now a space in you that had previously experienced love and love needs to flow from there again. If adopting another pet isn’t an option then find something else you can turn you love towards, a new passion or hobby perhaps. Love and time are the best medicines

(I’ve experienced my kelpie puppy being run over, my border collie puppy being run over, one cat go missing never to be seen again, another be run over though thankfully survived, and most recently my own little kitten being run over, on my birthday no less)

October 22, 2013 at 8:48 pm #44204

Francis V
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My dog died for over 3 years now. Honestly, I mourn for a week. I was depressed. I love my baby so much. But I didn’t blame anyone for her death (even my ex cause she lived there for a while since I cannot have pets in my own apartment) I decided not to have any pet as of the moment. But what helped me cope with the situation is that I devoted my free time helping other people how to take care of their pets both on line and in person. I realized having a pet made me more compassionate and loving. And my baby was my guiding force.

May 15, 2023 at 10:53 pm #418784

Tom
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[quote quote=40336]The biggest thing I’ve found in coping is to adopt another pet. It is not about replacing the animal, because you can never truly replace a living thing that you loved. But there is now a space in you that had previously experienced love and love needs to flow from there again. If adopting another pet isn’t an option then find something else you can turn you love towards, a new passion or hobby perhaps. Love and time are the best medicines (I’ve experienced my kelpie puppy being run over, my border collie puppy being run over, one cat go missing never to be seen again, another be run over though thankfully survived, and most recently my own little kitten being run over, on my birthday no less)[/quote]
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