Dear humour,

“I get easily attached to people and go through immense suffering as a result.”
This has been my problem too…of getting attached to people and then in turn that creates problems.
I will suggest you a few things and if you do them you will surely be back on track with your own life.

For non attachment-

For detachment in a healthy way please follow the two energy healing exercises explained in the below link.
(http://tinybuddha.com/topic/i-can-not-live-normal-anymore-i-can-not-accept-it/#post-113485)
In the 2nd exercise start with the name of the person about whom you feel the strongest attachment.
Continue to do it diligently for this person.
Once this person no longer bothers you “in your head” then move on to the next strongest person…and so on.

If you do not have any particular person(s) against whom you feel attached OR if there are lot many people you need to disconnect yourself with then do more of the 1st exercise.
These two exercises will cut the negative energy cords (of attachment) between you and other people.

For self control, to feel confident about yourself and to not catch the attachment vibes with other people- do Donna Eden’s ZipUp technique explained here-
(http://tinybuddha.com/topic/done-with-the-negative-engery-i-hope/#post-114161)

For freedom from unwanted emotions- and releasing them you can follow either one or both of the below methods-
1. EFT (or Emotional Freedom Techniques) is good for freeing yourself from any emotions.
There are lots of videos and articles over the web explaining how to do EFT. Check them out, but if you are also ok with some EFT tapping scripts at a small paid amount then I recommend the below website.
This is a wonderful website for EFT scripts on almost every single issue on our day to day lives.
(http://tap-easy.com)
Also, the owner of the site Sonal Pandey will respond in case you have any queries/questions/doubts.

2. For releasing unwanted emotions you can also know more about the below two techniques
The Release Technique
Official website: (http://www.releasetechnique.com)

I learned this technique from the below book and also attended their free Wednesday ‘Releasing’ calls.
(https://www.amazon.com/Abundance-Book-Lawrence-Crane/dp/0971175500)

For Self compassion-
For self-love please follow the steps I have explained in this post.
(http://tinybuddha.com/topic/how-can-i-love-myself/page/2/#post-115352)
Those free pdfs are really of great value.

Take Care,
VJ

• This reply was modified 8 years, 2 months ago by VJ.

Try this article:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/communication-success/201410/how-increase-your-emotional-intelligence-6-essentials

I found David Richo book ‘How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving’

Love has many dimensions, many paths leading to the still point.

“But what is worse, smelling the roast and not feasting, or not smelling the roast at all?”
― Garth Stein, The Art of Racing in the Rain

“There is no dishonor in losing the race. There is only dishonor in not racing because you are afraid to lose.” ― Garth Stein, The Art of Racing in the Rain

I’ve looked at love from both sides now
From give and take, and still somehow
It’s love’s illusions I recall
I really don’t know love at all

Tears and fears and feeling proud
To say “I love you” right out loud
Dreams and schemes and circus crowds
I’ve looked at life that way

But now old friends are acting strange
They shake their heads, they say I’ve changed
Well something’s lost, but something’s gained
In living every day

I’ve looked at life from both sides now
From win and lose and still somehow
It’s life’s illusions I recall
I really don’t know life at all – Both Sides, Now by Joni Mitchell

“The car goes where your eyes go. The driver who cannot tear his eyes away from the wall as he spins out of control will meet that wall; the driver who looks down the track as he feels his tires break free will regain control of his vehicle.” ― Garth Stein, The Art of Racing in the Rain