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    humour
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    I get easily attached to people and go through immense suffering as a result. Please point me to articles on greater self control, non attachment, freedom from unwanted emotions, self compassion and stuff on those lines. Any advice, anything that you have to share is appreciated. Thanks!

    #116184
    Anonymous
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    Dear humour:

    I don’t know of articles online- but I think there may be quite a few right here, on the Home Page, under BLOGS, probably under “Letting Go.”

    anita

    #116213
    VJ
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    Dear humour,

    “I get easily attached to people and go through immense suffering as a result.”
    This has been my problem too…of getting attached to people and then in turn that creates problems.
    I will suggest you a few things and if you do them you will surely be back on track with your own life.

    For non attachment-

    For detachment in a healthy way please follow the two energy healing exercises explained in the below link.
    (http://tinybuddha.com/topic/i-can-not-live-normal-anymore-i-can-not-accept-it/#post-113485)
    In the 2nd exercise start with the name of the person about whom you feel the strongest attachment.
    Continue to do it diligently for this person.
    Once this person no longer bothers you “in your head” then move on to the next strongest person…and so on.

    If you do not have any particular person(s) against whom you feel attached OR if there are lot many people you need to disconnect yourself with then do more of the 1st exercise.
    These two exercises will cut the negative energy cords (of attachment) between you and other people.

    For self control, to feel confident about yourself and to not catch the attachment vibes with other people- do Donna Eden’s ZipUp technique explained here-
    (http://tinybuddha.com/topic/done-with-the-negative-engery-i-hope/#post-114161)

    For freedom from unwanted emotions- and releasing them you can follow either one or both of the below methods-
    1. EFT (or Emotional Freedom Techniques) is good for freeing yourself from any emotions.
    There are lots of videos and articles over the web explaining how to do EFT. Check them out, but if you are also ok with some EFT tapping scripts at a small paid amount then I recommend the below website.
    This is a wonderful website for EFT scripts on almost every single issue on our day to day lives.
    (http://tap-easy.com)
    Also, the owner of the site Sonal Pandey will respond in case you have any queries/questions/doubts.

    2. For releasing unwanted emotions you can also know more about the below two techniques
    The Release Technique
    Official website: (http://www.releasetechnique.com)

    I learned this technique from the below book and also attended their free Wednesday ‘Releasing’ calls.
    (https://www.amazon.com/Abundance-Book-Lawrence-Crane/dp/0971175500)

    For Self compassion-
    For self-love please follow the steps I have explained in this post.
    (http://tinybuddha.com/topic/how-can-i-love-myself/page/2/#post-115352)
    Those free pdfs are really of great value.

    Take Care,
    VJ

    • This reply was modified 8 years ago by VJ.
    #116215
    norit
    Participant

    Hello Humour,

    I’m still a work-in-progress myself in non attachment, so don’t know if this will be any help! However, something I’ve found very helpful when it comes to letting go of someone I’ve become attached to is practising radical acceptance – accepting life how it is. “I don’t approve of it, and would rather not let them go, but this is what has happened, and I can only change how I respond to it,” kind of thing.
    Focusing on being grateful that I’ve been able to have them in my life, the positive experiences with them, and having faith in myself that I can manage by myself, and don’t need them. (Although it might not feel that way, I tell myself it regardless!)

    As Anita said, this website is full of so many great articles, I hope you find something helpful. 🙂

    #116217
    Nina Sakura
    Participant
    #116309
    humour
    Participant

    Hey thanks guys! Thank you so much, everyone of you for taking the time out to reply. I am still going through the write up suggestions. Thank you for sharing personal experiences as well. Makes me feel that I m not alone. 🙂

    #116396
    Peter
    Participant

    I found David Richo book ‘How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving’

    Love has many dimensions, many paths leading to the still point.

    “But what is worse, smelling the roast and not feasting, or not smelling the roast at all?”
    ― Garth Stein, The Art of Racing in the Rain

    “There is no dishonor in losing the race. There is only dishonor in not racing because you are afraid to lose.” ― Garth Stein, The Art of Racing in the Rain

    I’ve looked at love from both sides now
    From give and take, and still somehow
    It’s love’s illusions I recall
    I really don’t know love at all

    Tears and fears and feeling proud
    To say “I love you” right out loud
    Dreams and schemes and circus crowds
    I’ve looked at life that way

    But now old friends are acting strange
    They shake their heads, they say I’ve changed
    Well something’s lost, but something’s gained
    In living every day

    I’ve looked at life from both sides now
    From win and lose and still somehow
    It’s life’s illusions I recall
    I really don’t know life at all – Both Sides, Now by Joni Mitchell

    “The car goes where your eyes go. The driver who cannot tear his eyes away from the wall as he spins out of control will meet that wall; the driver who looks down the track as he feels his tires break free will regain control of his vehicle.” ― Garth Stein, The Art of Racing in the Rain

    #117326
    Mishika
    Participant

    Hi,

    When you see people you love walk into darkness, never stop them. Its painful not to take a stand because you see them falling. The most intelligent thing to do is step back. Honour their choice of walking into darkness. Because if you take a stand for them, they will perceive it as you are suffocating them.

    And probably in their journey they are meant to fall into darkness and LEARN. No-one can change that . Give people you love only how much they are willing to receive from you. That is truly honouring of YOU because then you have more of you for your own-self.

    source : http://www.magicalvibe.com/honouring-yourself/

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