To me, love is a choice, and slightly a feeling. Love is choosing to be vulnerable to someone, to commit to someone, to accept them, and to stay with them through hard times. To me, love is to see someone in a way you don’t see anyone else, to see them as someone special, to see them as who you want to spend your life with, your soul mate.
As for the feeling side, when you’re in love, you should feel comfortable and safe with who you’re with. You should feel like you can be yourself around them. You should be able to be happy most of the time if not all the time. Your lover should feel like home to you, and with love, you should know if you’re in love in some way.
And for extra; When you’re in love, you should feel like you would do more for them then your friends. You should be close to them. You should be able to say good things about them instead of just bad.
That’s my definition of love in the best I can think of.
I just read through the four previous pages of our communication and I very much like my replies to you. I put a lot of thought in them. Problem is you either didn’t read my replies to you, or you didn’t read them attentively.
It seems like you post here when you feel badly, just as you post in one or more other websites, so to feel better. Not to understand better, but to get that temporary feel-better relief.
But I am here to understand better, to learn about people and life. For me to understand better here on your thread, it requires that you actually read and consider what it is that I type for you.
So if you want, if you choose to- read our communication so far, take notes, and post next what you understand from my previous posts to you.
If you do that, I will be glad to reply to you next. If you don’t, I will no longer reply to your posts and updates, not here on your thread, and not in future threads. I hope other members will.