Hi Talia

What a beautiful wisdom you hold within your being. “No one cares”. In the true essence of this adult life, that is so right and will be until the last second of this human existence.

We can only care about ourself. No one else can be our best friend or well wisher except for self. Perhaps, the difficult experiences have been put into your life to learn this quickly and emerge stronger and better.

When you start caring for self and loving yourself, every thing around you will change and then suddenly everyone will start caring and loving you as well. But hey, then it wont matter because you would have found who “talia” is and what she is capable of. You will be able to share your light with others then and become an instrument for the Universe to share its love with the rest of the earthlings.

Lots of blessings to you. You will be fine 🙂

Jasmine

Sometimes it’s OK to give up on one thing, to take care of another. I once flunked a course in university by not studying or turning up for the exam, so I could do well on the other courses I was taking. I don’t know about the nature of your stresses, but maybe you can just drop something, and see who picks it up. I once walked away from everything that was going on in my life just to be alone for 5 weeks. People worried for me, were disappointed in me, but I got back to me and everything turned out fine in the end.

You’re not running out of time. There will always be time. Until you die, but that’s when you can stop worrying about anything at all, so don’t worry about that, either. I think the people in your life do care, but they may not be sure how to help you.

Be clear about what you need. Focus on what’s important. And know that it won’t always feel like this.

Talia,

Please learn to accept that these stresses, issues, problems are a constant in our lives. They exist in order to teach us our lessons so that once learned, we may develop into even more beautiful beings. Also, learning to handle our attitudes towards these stresses may actually diminish them. We must also take care in making sure that issues are truly issues and not things that we conjured up because of our prejudices. For example, and this is but a small example, my sister washed the dishes but did not do a satisfactory job. While this may be absolutely true, it is possible that perhaps only I believe this. In her mind, it is possible that she believes she did a good job. Therefore, we must take great care in considering our issues.

Also, as you’ve stated, if some of these have options, hence answers, then it is important to perform their solutions. We will gain nothing but added stress if we do not perform what needs to be performed in order to eradicate chaos. However, performing these deeds will have gained us significant knowledge to help us deal with future similar problems and the tools to obtain harmony. Always do what you believe you can do by yourself. When you’ve done so and find that the rest will require the aid of another/others, please recall that ‘how’ you ask for help greatly matters. For example, instead of ranting off about how much you have to accomplish, remember that a simple ‘please’ will go a long way along with an ‘ahead Thank You’ added at the end of your sentence. You will find that asking kindly and politely has not diminished despite the environment you’re in.

You’ll Make It,

Al

Talia,
I very much can sympathize with how you are feeling. Now I know that everyone here is telling you that this is something you have to do for yourself and no one can do it for you. And they are right. No one can walk your path for you, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t walk next to someone, next to a guide. It’s like being on a dark path and you lost your flashlight, and then someone suddenly comes along with a flashlight that illuminates the path. Sometimes, the reason family and friends can’t help you or give good advice is because they have a certain image of you and how you should be handling something or how you should be doing something. Sometimes the people who help us most are the people we are not close with. What I am trying to get at, is that perhaps a support group would be just the thing for you. You would be surrounded by people going through the same thing, and there is often a measure of comfort in being able to share with people who know nothing about your past or who your family thinks you are or ought to be. In a support group, you could share and get ideas from others about how to move forward in your life and you would know you are not alone. Now of course, ultimately, no one can walk your path for you, but they can indeed offer support and guidance. You are not alone! There are many of us out there just like you. Find a group, and that might be just the right first step to take.

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