Hi, I’m Sofioula

4 months ago, I broke up with my boyfriend of 1 year. I have posts here, wjich helped me a lot go through the rought time of the breakup detox. I was silent here because I wanted to get a hold of myself and focus on my healing.

Good news is I moved on. Still single but now I expanded my friends circle, I go to the gym consistently, at my workplace everybody speaks higly of me and I booked my first session with a psychologist to work on my complexes and deeply understand how to work things out.

Well, on April 14th was my birthday. And half a hour before my birthday ended, my ex, which we were no contact for all these 4 months, send me a text. He said  Happy birthday  I hope everything is working out well for you in your life and that he’s sending for me to see that he thinks of me and respects all we’ve been through.

If he were a decent boyfriend, an honest man, no second thoughts, I would have kept it polite and answered or even initiate friendly contact with him. But I didn’t. Most of my friends and family said he only did it to get in my mind again and have me get emotional. Because if his interest was pure, he would have contacted me much earlier.

Still, I ALWAYS, literally  even to my own detriment want to be polite. And it bugs me that I didn’t respond just to be polite. But it’s also a “curse” that politeness because I “juice” out my being, in order to please other. What would you have handled this?

Namaste  ?