Dear blkhwkdwn1:

Yes, she does read like a special person, not too many of her kind: honest, kind, trustworthy, reaching out to others, and more (you can come up with more adjectives that describe her being special…)

I would call her regarding coffee anytime. She can tell you when she is too busy and so, you can plan on a good time for the two of you.

About all the questions you have- I am glad you have them! Ask one at a time and listen for her answer. Not a good idea to think and plan the second question while she is answering the first. Best not to even intend to ask the next question- just listen to her answer and figure the following:

Does she appear/ sound comfortable answering this question: is she blushing or looking around or is she looking you in the eyes, her face relaxed? How is her tone of voice: shaky or strong, monotonous or lively, with ups and downs. Does she even answer the question or is she avoiding it? And then, if she answered, pay attention to the answer- maybe something in it is not clear to you, so ask a question in regard to her answer.

See, one question can occupy a whole coffee date. And this is the key- if you arrive to the date with a list of questions, it can feel like an interrogation and a waste of time, because all you get, at best, is a series of superficial answers to many questions. But if you ask one important question, pay attention, and then ask clarifying questions, that will feel like closeness, good communication, a getting to know her deeper.

The two approaches: asking a series of questions and getting superficial answers OR asking one question leading to a deeper understanding of her than you ever had- these two approaches are as different as night and day.

anita

Dear blkhwkdwn1:

Her favorite gift! I like that, very much, that it is her favorite gift, that is. The Great Spirit, living off the land, vegan… I am getting to know her more. Life Force, Great Spirit- if I was sitting in front of her in a coffee place, I would ask her about what it means to her.

First XMas with no arguments- I would definitely ask her about that, in the coffee place. I wonder… there is so much I wonder about, wanting to know. Maybe I will know after the first, second or third (I hope) coffee date you have with her.

anita

Dear blkhwkdwn1:

That was very, very… very generous of you.

anita

Dear blkhwkdwn1:

My pleasure- I got rewarded by proxy for the mug gift. The great spirit, wait I am googling…it’s a universal spiritual force, or supreme being prevalent among some Native American…

Wikipedia: “The Great Spirit created man and woman and they “lived in happiness for a time, but as husbands and wives have done ever since, they soon began to quarrel”. The story explains that the wife leaves the husband and sets off walking toward “the setting sun”. The Great Spirit sees that the man is unhappy and creates berries along her path; she ignores the huckleberries, cherries and blackberries along the way. Then The Great Spirit creates strawberries and the woman stops to gather some and the man is able to catch up to her, she shares them with him and they return home together. The berries are then named Odamin, meaning heart berry.”

Next gift must include berries then, specifically strawberries, organic, of course. And they are absolutely vegan and gluten free as well.

Here are the first two of the seven earth prayers for the great spirit:
1. O Great Spirit, who art before all else and who dwells in every object, in every person and in every place, we cry unto Thee. We summon Thee from the far places into our present awareness.

2. O Great Spirit of the North, who gives wings to the waters of the air and rolls the thick snowstorm before Thee, Who covers the Earth with a sparkling crystal carpet above whose deep tranquillity every sound is beautiful. Temper us with strength to withstand the biting blizzards, yet make us thankful for the beauty which follows and lies deep over the warm Earth in its wake.

hmmm… what do you think (bed time, back tomorrow morning)

anita

Dear blkhwkdwn1:

September is a long time for now, but good idea! I don’t know if she knows about the story, the berry story. This is something you can find out in future talks with her, what the Great Spirit means to her, then if it is the same spirit I googled, you can share with her the story. If she finds it fascinating, that will make your idea fitting and her next favorite-of-all gift!

anita

Dear blkhwkdwn1:

Wikepedia doesn’t have much on “life force” (It is a title of a horror movie and a computer game, I read)

On a website, I read: “What is Life Force? It is the flow of Infinite Silence into action. The Universe is structured so that everything arises out of the infinite pure Source, which holds all the potential for life. But Source itself is formless… Life Force flows out of the unbounded Source to create everything we know of as life…The heart generates the vibration of love. It receives Life Force and then generates, activates, and increases the flow of love as the flow of Life Force. Focusing on the heart helps you to increase Life Force in your heart center, to create more of this vital Life Force energy. The Heart is a generator of life energy, a generator of love..”

I hope that she will view, over time, through those deeper conversations I hope you will have with her, that she will view your heart as the infinite Life Force that it is!

anita