August 3, 2021 at 8:00 am #384009
When I’m going thru difficult situations that might be normal to other I be feeling like I’m going to die . I’m a adult that doesn’t have it all together yet .
August 3, 2021 at 8:02 am #384010
- This reply was modified 1 month, 3 weeks ago by Emily.
The struggles of not smoking when stressed is difficult. I’m working on these healthy habits .August 3, 2021 at 9:18 am #384022
Welcome back to your thread, more than 4 months since you last posted. I understand you being stressed, and unable to relieve your stress by smoking weed. The landlord does not allow his tenants to smoke weed, and I suppose he has the legal right to do so. But you can relieve some of your stress in other ways, like a hot bath.. or a cold shower (depending on the temperature), soft music… maybe listen to a guided meditation to calm down, yoga, etc.
And you can vent here anytime! And please: be kind to yourself for being an “adult that doesn’t have it all together yet”- you had a very difficult childhood, you have a very difficult life: it’s not fair that you expect yourself to have it all together. Besides, hardly anyone (and maybe no one) has it all together!
One day at a time, one hour at a time. Calm down best you can, take a few deep breaths once in a while. How is your child doing?
anitaAugust 3, 2021 at 11:10 am #384031
Child is doing good , Officially a first grader after attending summer school … I do this all for him !August 3, 2021 at 11:53 am #384041
I am so glad to read what you wrote above, reading that you are a good mother: there are not enough good mothers in our world, and a good mother makes the world a better place, one person at a time!
Keep the value of making the world a better place, as you are doing. I am proud of you, if I may say so!
anitaAugust 3, 2021 at 2:12 pm #384059
Yes hard work . My mom never told me the struggle . I now understand .August 3, 2021 at 2:29 pm #384063
A struggle it is. But we all need some down time- to relax, to forget about the struggles. How is the weather where you are?
anitaAugust 3, 2021 at 3:11 pm #384071
79 it’s warm .
How is the weather where you are ?August 3, 2021 at 3:38 pm #384077
It is warm here, 84 degrees and hazy because of the fires, here in the West. I am about to go out for a 3.5 mile walk, my daily walk.. in the sun, heat and bit of smoke.. just because I am in the habit of doing so.
anitaAugust 3, 2021 at 3:56 pm #384083
Positive habits I love it . I fight with myself daily to change my habits . Things catch on fire often where you are ? Is it because of the heat ? I never even checked what coast I lived in so focused on surviving my daily thoughts . I just googled it I’m east coast .August 3, 2021 at 6:03 pm #384089
I returned from my walk less than an hour ago. Yes, I live on the west coast and there is a heat wave all the way from California up to Oregon, Washington and British Columbia (Canada), and to the east: Idaho. The heat causes drought/ dryness and therefore fires.
Yes, I remember that we talked about you forming a daily routine. You said that you purchased yoga equipment, if I remember correctly. Emily, please feel free to post anytime, just like you did today: a sentence, a few sentences, as short or as long as you want your post to be. I will always be glad to read from you and reply!
anitaAugust 7, 2021 at 9:09 am #384242
How are you, Emily?
anitaAugust 7, 2021 at 6:37 pm #384260
Not much to do since I’m unemployed
Its my fault I knew that the hours weren’t kid friendly and I still accepted the position knowing I’m a single mom
Did a little research and there’s a more flexible job that I can do (HomeCare) and I can pick up and drop off my son to school so Im happy .
His dad lives in a new state and couple years ago started a new family.
I have to include my son in everything I do So it’s We instead of me .
As for me Im going to purchase a indoor bike and a cookbook .
Since I can’t go to the gym I was waking up at 5am going to the park before I take my son to school but my son hates it when I break his sleep and he need rest before school so im buying myself a indoor spin bike I am still going to do the things I want to do for myself even thou I have to make everything single mom friendly . I’m working with my situation now not against it.
I want my son to have good memories of growing up . Since I didn’t .
August 7, 2021 at 7:41 pm #384262
- This reply was modified 1 month, 2 weeks ago by Emily.
“I want my son to have good memories of growing up . Since I didn’t“- this is the most precious thing I read all day
I want to reply a bit more to your recent post Sun morning. It is now 7:38 pm my time (West Coast), and it is finally raining (!!!) after the longest drought and high temperatures of a long, long time. It feels good, like the planet is still alive. Be back to you in about 11 hours from now.
anitaAugust 8, 2021 at 8:10 am #384277
I hope that you get the more flexible job (Home Care). Keeping yourself busy, having a daily routine is important to you, isn’t it. A daily routine is also very important to your son!
“I have to include my son in everything I do So it’s We instead of me“- beautifully said.
I hope you make good use of the indoor spin bike you want to purchase, ride it while listening to music or watching TV, so that you don’t get bored.
“I’m working with my situation now not against it“- wise!