Shit man.
That is beyond awful.

My advice: Get busy. Anyone would want to die if they sat around and allowed themselves to think about something as terrible as this.
I’m depressed like you are, for other reasons but that hate you have inside you isn’t going to go anywhere unless you let it out.
And although you could show your ex-friend what karma looks like, by repeatedly bashing his head in, you would then secure a fate of misery (and prison time) and your life would end up in ruins.

It’s going to take a while, but you need to accept what happened (meaning to accept you will need to never speak to those two awful people again) and move forward into a new venture. I suggest you beat the holy hell out of some pillows on a daily basis, or take up weightlifting or something similar, or else you may end up in a state of rage where you do something stupid.

The best thing can do is focus on making this a non-issue. Make those ****s see that you’re far better than them. Don’t allow this to break you, because they would take pride in that. F*ck them man. They’re as good as dead to you now. I know that’s hard to accept, but it’s the only way out of this mess.

Go do something big.

Hey, sounds rly fckn harsh.

I went true something similair and trust me, you will learn a lot from whats happening now and you will come out of this stronger and wiser. Whenever my negative thoughts about ‘them’ would come up i would try to allow it alland just let go of everything i think and/or feel right now. Knowing that this will pass and will improve my life after a certain time. (though i understand that its hard to imagine this right now).

Ive leanred that, the more shit you go true in life, if you take out the positive things, you will become more of a happy/content/stronger person. I know its so fckn cruel but i rly believe its the life-expereince we need to grow more awesome. Does that make sense? (Being able to love and accept yourself more, getting to learn about yourself, what you wanna do with your life etc.

Go out and do the things you love, do things you have never done before, do things that scare you and be honest to the people that you have around you. Never think the grass is greener, its not, period. All people go treu their own shit, dont romantisize, we are people, and nobody lives in a fairytail. Just try to take out the positive. Make lists of things you want to do with your precious life. Maybe keep a quote-book with quotes that make you feel better about life. (i did that and it helped me)

Go to the gym/work out! This will be good for SO many reasons. Be nice to yourself, be sweet and be soft. Ask yourself everyday:How can i love myself more? Take good care of yourself and eat as healthy as you can. I promse you this will improve the quality of your life if you accept your feelings right now and take out all the positive things that you can think off.

Confrontation is one of the best things that you can do for yourself! I live by that, and trust me i’ve been tru some hard shit too. And i can honestly tell you that i am happier than ever before, i do what i dream off and i get more happy and happy with myself, feel more at ease in my skin etc. (am 27 btw) Now i thank the people who have givin me shit in the past, with out them and the expierence they ket me have i would have never grown and learned so much about life and myself!

You will meet new awesome people. Pls try to not hold grugde. This will only hurt yourself. Forgive them (so that you YOURSELF can let go of the negative feelings). Remember they didnt do this to mess your life up. People fall in love, SO WILL YOU AGAIN.. <3

Try to avoid sugar and alcohol/sigarets. You will get used to your new life. Try to view it as a fresh new start! And Fall in love with yourself. You are (or at least should be(come) the most iporant/beautiful/awesome person in the world to you and you always will. You are the MOST important person in your world/universe. It’s you first, always.

I hope this helps you a little bit..

Wish you a lot of love, remember you are NEVER alone honey! x from the Netherlands!

BELIEVE IN YOURSELF*

Dude… I can see how you’re feeling, but your brain is full of un-analysed shit right now.
Just because you introduced a friend to a partner doesn’t mean it was your mistake that got you here.
That’s not true at all.
If you didn’t introduce your ex to that so-called ‘friend’, she would have hurt you another time. Guarantee it.
They are just not good people… and, unfortunately, you have to be careful with who you put trust into.

This weekend was not ‘PROOF’ that you can’t be happy again. That’s bullshit.
You never said exactly when this all happened, but I assume it wasn’t long ago.
It would be unrealistic to believe all that pain will just go away after a few weeks or months.
But you have the rest of your life to live and one day, this truly will not hurt.
At least not like it does now.

I agree with the above, which said you should allow yourself to feel this way, because it has to be expected.
But, move past the fear and holding onto the past. Don’t remain with these feelings forever and stay stuck.
Anger is better than fear in this respect.
And your mind pretty much determines everything that happens to you, because if you tell yourself you’re a piece of shit who gets betrayed because he deserves it and is a loser, you won’t allow anything good in. You’ll hold yourself back and tell yourself lies like you did multiple times above. You don’t need loads of money to show someone you’re doing okay. There are a whole lot of people starving in the 3rd World, but many of them are happier than materialistic people in the developed countries, like ours. Happiness comes from within. And some of the best things really are free – a sunset, friends and relationships (not always ‘the best’, of course… but often and in time, you’ll see that again).

The past doesn’t equal the future.
And hey, it’s okay that you want to kill yourself.
Well, not ‘okay’… but natural, given what’s happened.
I’d want to kill myself at times to.
And hey – fellow depressed person here (a fair bit of the time) – so I know how it feels to be like that.
I really feel for you, as I’m sure anyone who’s read this does.
Remember that not everyone is bad… But these two people from your past are and you’ll do better without them, in time.
One day, you’ll not live so close either.

I know it feels all wrong. You thought you knew these people and could trust them.
You feel like you’ve lost it all and have nothing to live for.
But you have a future wife who will be waiting for you, if you carry on.
Your life isn’t over buddy.
And hey, don’t feel stupid because there are some horrible people, with sociopathic behaviour, in this World.
They’re selfish and only care about themselves. They will walk over their fellow humans to get what they like.
It’s not you who created this. It’s them.
Maybe you weren’t the best boyfriend or friend at times – I don’t know – but regardless, it doesn’t invite behaviour like this.

It’s okay to feel bad, but don’t believe that you will never be happy again.
You aren’t the first person this has happened to. You won’t be the last.
There are two outcomes from this.
It will break you, or you will bounce back.
If you choose the second, you need to be realistic and expect some ups-and-downs.
There will be days where you feel like you’re over it… and then days where the scars seem to be as new as they first were.

Reach out for support along the way.
This forum will no doubt be helpful for a while, as well as a therapist and some good friends.

Much love, bro

Don’t give up on yourself.

Hi dear Mefisto

Right Now u need good emotional support n lots of reassurance abt U… ur into self-blame cycle… u think all des happened bcoz of u… but its not true my dear Frnd… dont distract ur self by getting busy as if nothing hpnd… be wit the pain…yes it will hurt…feel it to ur core… it will move through U…dont resist…what ever Happens it Happens for our highest good… hv that faith… those people who left u they dont care abt u…yeah true…but y do u behave d same way like how they behaved with u…be kind to yourself… u can nvr say for sure u wont be richer than d guy u compared… Good things will happen to u only wen u know that it will happen n wen u allow it… n even if ur X-Gf was with u now…whats the use of hvg a person who doesnt love u truly for who YOU REALLY ARE??
The only constant thing in Life is CHANGE..
ur state right now…not so good…even that will pass…
who knows nxt year ur life might be Rocking…
I Believe in being n doing Good…bcoz what goes around comes back to us…

All the people who replied to u also hv gone thr hurt in 1 or the other way…nobody’s life is perfect or pain free…but learn to be strong…this will make u strong im sure…all these people love u(includes me)…so only we r sending u lots of love from all over the world.

I have the same opinion as you on medication.
As far as antidepressants go, I only lasted 11 days on a drug called Sertraline.
I’d had bad experience with medication in the past so was very against the idea of anti-d’s.
It took me a while to work up the courage to take them and during the 11 days, my side effects were noticeable.
I couldn’t feel anything during sex (common side effect, for guys) and was crazy tired (I was tired as it is).
I did a few videos on the drug at the time: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bc7ir7IJfF0
I also have some videos based on mental health on my channel. Check them out if you like (this is an ongoing thing, so I’m not ‘cured’).

You’re the one to make the decision buddy.
Your situation is one which may make it necessary to take medication temporarily.
I’m not of the opinion (like so many seem to be) that you HAVE TO take medication in order to overcome depression, though.
SSRI’s and other antidepressants are quite unpredictable and nobody actually knows how (or if) they work.
The serotonin thing sounds like it makes sense, but none of it has been proven.
I still suffer from depression pretty bad at times (today I’m fine), but I’m determined to get out of it on my own terms.
I don’t personally wish to take drugs, because I believe in nature (I think society and the pressures we face create most of the problems) and wouldn’t want to rely on anything out of my control (like the drugs), so to speak.

If you decide against them (could be a good call, long-term, in my opinion), you’ll need a plan that tackles your issues from multiple perspectives.
It sounds like you had issues before this – and hey, many people do so you’re not alone – so don’t forget that.
Whether this had happened or not, you’d still need to do something for yourself.

You’ve said nothing about the rest of your life, but I’m going to guess that you either don’t have a job at the moment, or hate the one you do have. How old are you? I fancy taking a guess … 23?
Though this would set the healthiest person back, you need to carry on as best you can and think about what you want from this one live you’ve been granted. What would make you happy? If you’re bored, get out there more and do something different and interesting.

Your life doesn’t have to be the picture of doom you may be envisioning at the moment. It is very possible to move past this and become a great man. The Rock (Dwayne Johnson) was facing arrests for theft and assault when he was younger. He had $7 in his name. But, he also had some things going for him (His father and grandfather were talented wrestlers) and so he saw a path to something better. He’s doing pretty good these days. But he had to work really hard to get to where he is.

Same could happen for you; I don’t mean you’ll become a Wrestler or Hollywood actor… but you CAN turn this all around. First step is to believe that you are capable of great things. Because you are.

Hope this helps you bro.