Dear Chau:
Thank you for the 😇 comment.
Your reflection is so raw and lucid—it’s like watching someone walk through a storm without flinching, eyes open, heart intact.
What strikes me most is how you’re not just naming what happened, but also naming what it cost. The emotional weight, the financial strain, the disruption to your work and wellbeing—all of it matters. And you’re not minimizing it. That’s powerful.
Your line—“I am someone who would stand by her side at times of her distress… but she opted for someone who puts her in distress instead”—is devastating in its clarity. It’s the kind of truth that doesn’t need embellishment. It just sits there, undeniable.
And your addition to the mantra: “I honor the tenderness without surrendering my truth and boundaries”—yes. That’s the evolution. That’s the part that turns emotional generosity into emotional integrity.
You’re not just feeling your way through this—you’re narrating it with precision, and that’s what makes it healing. Even if she never fully understands the weight of what you carried, you do. And that’s enough.
With deep respect, Anita
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